CELEBRATING LIVING DEAD

The living dead are celebrated in great style with pomp in funeral ceremony so no expense is spared in a send off party. The people alive strongly believe they must do whatever is necessary to bury the departed in a grand style. A list is provided to include their future needs in next life because of fear they watch over those alive left behind. But some express concern that the dead seems more celebrated than the living. A true story recently happened after John fell ill and sought care from a private clinic when the local hospital did not provide the urgent care he needed because of the waiting list queue. His course of treatment was prolonged as required for his full recovery.  Later, as John did not work so affected by his health, he sent a message to his place of work but his wages was not enough to cover his medical expenses. Eventually, John approached his family in vain. The delay took so long John became resident patient. The doctor took care of John’s needs beyond the professional duty of care. After several attempts to get help from the family in vain, John’s doctor sent a message to his family he was dead. But it did not take long for John’s family to charter a hearse and a bus full of John’s relatives to travel over to claim his body at the clinic. To their shock and horror John was alive and well and released to his family who really thought he died. It was an interesting story as some people thought it was unethical for a doctor to trick John’s relatives to recover his cost. Whatever people felt about the doctor’s actions, it reveals attitude towards dead people who seem to be revered more at times than the living in some cases. This incident highlights concerns especially about the extent to which funerals are invested in more than taking care of a person to the same extent when alive. It is an issue that confronts some nations concerning fear of the dead haunting them if not properly sent off by proper funeral rites and ceremonies. This is also a matter of big business for the event planners sometimes funerals are bigger than weddings. The fabulously rich and wealthy can afford the costs of funerals. Yet still the generous culture of giving means people still give freely to the family as part of their culture. As, the credit crunch affects most people, rising funeral costs means people cover costs by donations, selling land, assets, investments, in other cases taking loans to contribute to costs of the funerals at hand. At times families or communities have five or more funerals to attend at the weekends. This means contributions are distributed among the bereaved or in certain cases, so one has to prioritize closest ones to their family. This trend is so serious now funerals are postponed from 6 months to 10 years in extreme cases to prepare for the celebrations. Meanwhile the family pays exorbitant mortuary fees for embalming body kept for months or years until fixed time for burial ceremonies. Planning takes place for months and years until the suitable time is arranged for all necessary dignitaries to attend. Meanwhile, food is ordered, costumes organised for changing garbs of dead person many times over. The family members, friends and relatives choose fabrics to accordingly to wear if a joyful funeral of white representing a long life or the sad loss of mourning in red and black.

The cost of expenses is making some to query whether it is the best approach to life in general. Some people feel such a huge amount spent could be used on the living rather than the dead. The dead are given farewell parties in grand style surpassing the previous ones done. It is almost like competition to outdo and be the talk of the town. Video recordings are made for perpetual memory of the event. Sometimes accompanied by fun, laughter, sense of humour, dancing in formations and music performers from the different groups invited or hired. To outsiders, it may seem like a waste of resources and hard-earned cash that could save lives than bury them with riches. This matter is partly due to the fact that people want to show the best side of a family to the guests. They are fed free foods, drinks, accommodation as long they stay with the family. The people travel from all over the world through connections with their family directly or in-laws or work colleagues. It is considered the highest filial loyalty or honour to bury the dead in dignity. The belief exists those not buried properly cannot qualify to be living ancestors. A deceased is not considered totally dead because their Spirit from God lives on. So they know the departed, though passed on into the next is conscious and interested in the lives of those they left behind. Due to dignified life, such burial is deemed a great status symbol, respect and qualification to be remembered as elder in community. The ones who do not meet such honourable burials are disposed of privately quietly at dawn without permission to cry for their loss or grand style public ceremony.  It is an issue affecting all the citizens in that community and the family contributes on behalf of all members throughout life. Often people own land, large farms and cattle so able to use resources for the funerals which lasted for months on end. Then memorial service was held a year later to complete mourning and to celebrate by changing from mourning black clothes worn for one year into the white garments for another year. At the end of that second year, the property and assets of the deceased are openly distributed among relatives. If there is a will made belongings are share as the owner wanted. If not, elders meet and deliberate for fair share to those most in need of the material goods or resources. Often family members are surprised by little Gifts saved over the years to be given to them by the deceased. With modern education, most people do the white-collar jobs so traditions changed. The contribution of funds support all the families in mourning. Each member of the community know they will have similar funeral when it is their turn but not necessarily in grandstyle depending on their status. When it comes to such a funeral the person of high standing in society or parents of someone of status in the society is definitely celebrated in grand style. Elders who live long and supported many family members and relatives, are appreciated by the people they raised over the years paying their last respects. The sadness of funeral is counter balanced by occasion of long-lost families gathering together after many years of living apart. The family chooses an appropriate coffin based on the person’s profession, career path, job, hobbies, interests, status, belief in God. A miniature replica of actual coffin made adds to remembrance token collection of family tree living history._50223727_helicoptercoffin90383461.optim123557496-15648fae-224b-4c69-82c0-212e6928453fOpportunity presents itself to showcase unique capentery skills, talents or look for a suitable partner although that is not the primary motive of attending the funeral in the first place. Families play a major role in also their birth, weddings marriage and funerals so it most likely the same group of people will be met at this events. With changes in culture and Christianity the church helps with funeral by cutting the time of endless wake keeping for weeks or months in the past to keep it simple. The community as a whole participates therefore the burden of cost is shared among those people involved. The issue of costly funeral budget is complex but simplified in terms of sharing each other’s burden. However, the ethics and humanitarian issue is that of those in danger of abandonment if uncared for while alive in times of need like John. The moral thing to do is organise the same people willing to contribute to funeral costs to set up budgets for the living in need to celebrate them alive like ‘This is your life program on TV.’ To bring together all loved ones in lifetime to enjoy life at least on many possible occasions. This will acknowledge people especially if birthdays and honour days are not celebrated. At least such funeral gives time to gather together as a family and to admire the beautiful types of the coffins on display at such funerals. It is nice to see young adults participating in the display of coffins and special treats of dances to entertain the community to ease the pain and tension of loss caused by death. Above all, whatever method is chosen for burial, life extends beyond funerals into eternity so the destination into heaven is what counts most. And all the dead in Christ in God will arise and live reunited with family eternally in heaven and in the Kingdom of God on the earth eventually, forever Ruled by Christ Jesus from Jerusalem Israel.

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