EYES, EARS, NOSE & MOUTH

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Ephesians 4:16 says God makes the whole body of Christ fit together perfectly as eyes, nose, mouth, ears, hands, feet fit the body. Each part does special work to help other parts function better as part of the whole body. The Body of Christ is compared to various physical body parts working in unison to perform assigned roles. This enables the body to be coordinated to support each other. So God created two eyes trained to see twice by faith to see through eyes of faith all God’s plans and desires with two ears to hear twice more to discern than speak. In the same way the delicate body parts are compared to workings of Holy Spirit in 1 Corinthians 12 : 1-26. The Bible talks about the gifts of the Holy Spirit so that brothers and sisters will not be uninformed. It is important to know the role each one has to play either as a seer’s eyes see visions, ears hear voice of God, nose smells sweet aroma fragrance of Christ, mouth speaks the true prophetic words of God that does not return void but accomplishes victory, hands that bless or feet that springs into action on behalf of all. Taking time to be aware of one’s strengths, and gifts enables best use of one’s talents and abilities. This makes correct use of talents appropriately ensuring competence and efficiency. And therefore roles are specifically put in place to follow management of God’s Business. five_senses_collageThis allow eyes, nose, mouth correct roles by wisdom, humility and discernment as certain roles at times may seem as better than others from an outward perspective. The person willing to Obey God’s plans recognises that the work is unto the LORD God’s Glory not praise of people. So some roles may seem not quite what a person feels is within their calling. Yet each little helps as little drops of water make mighty ocean. No matter how small the role each is contributing to a bigger picture of God’s Kingdom. To accept an assigned role is to please God to do HIS WILL in Christ. Since the foundation of earth God’s chosen ones yield to God through the Holy Spirit. When eyes insist on doing work of ears, hands or feet do mouth’s work instead this creates chaos and confusion. This is due to the fact that their original intended role is wasted so neglected to take on another role not as supposed to be performed. The new role is not done well because God never intended that work for them in the first place. This is likened to the original plan of God to be devoted to the LORD God Almighty alone but instead eyes stray in other directions by distractions.  You know pagans are influenced and led astray to follow mute idols.3 The result is body part misplaced in the wrong place out of tune with God. So God wants you to know those who speak by the Spirit of God say Jesus is Lord by the power of the Holy Spirit. Jesus+christ+how+horrifying+freya+jobbins+portrait+made+out+of_797e82_5021177.jpgThere are different kinds of gifts, but the same Spirit distributes them 5 for different kinds of service function is from the same Lord God. There are different kinds of workings in everyone yet the same God at work. 7 To each one the manifestation of the Spirit is given for the common good. To one there is given through the Spirit a message of wisdom, to another a message of knowledge by means of the same Spirit, to another faith by the same Spirit, to another gifts of healing by one Spirit, 10 to another miraculous powers, to another prophecy, to another the distinguishing between spirits, to another speaking in different kinds of tongues and to another the interpretation of tongues.  11 All these are the works of one and the same Spirit, Holy Spirit and He distributes to each one, just as God determines. Any displacement of one part to another function is caused by the spirit of discord, divisions, lack of unity, confusion not Godly understanding.resist-the-devil-he-will-flee-james-4-7.jpg

Unity and Diversity in the Body

12 Just as the body although one has many parts and the many parts form one body so it is with Christ. 13 We are all baptized by one Spirit to form one body whether Jews or Gentiles, slave or free are all given one Spirit to drink one communion of the Blood of Yeshua Messiah, who through the eternal Spirit offered Himself without blemish to God cleans the conscience from dead works to serve the living LORD God in Hebrews 9:14. So Word of God promises those in Messiah are free and therefore no condemnation to those in Yeshua Messiah who do not walk in the flesh according to Romans 8:1. 14 The body is not made up of only the one part but of many. 15 Now if the foot should say, that “Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason stop being part of the body. 16 And if the ear should say, “Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason stop being part of the body. 17 If the whole body were eyes, where would the sense of hearing be? If the whole body were an ear where would sense of smell be? 18 But in fact God has placed the parts in the body, every one of them, just as HE wanted them to be. 19 If they were all one part where would the other body parts be? 20 Though many parts yet one whole body.1933377-Very-ugly-face-and-comical-create-with-the-hand-with-an-eye-an-ear-the-nose-the-mouth-and-a-foot-Stock-Photo.jpg

21 The eye cannot say to the hand, “I don’t need you!” And the head cannot say to the feet, “I don’t need you!” 22 On the contrary, the parts of the body that seem weaker are all indispensable 23 and the parts we think less honourable we must treat with a special honour. The parts unpresentable are to be treated modestly. 24 The  presentable parts perhaps need no special treatment. But God has put body together, giving greater honour to various parts so 25 there should be no divisions in the body but the parts should have equal concerns for each other.  26 If one part suffers every part suffers with them if another part is honoured every part rejoices with them. It is important the body of Christ understand various roles assigned by God are all valid so necessary to build the House of God. So each person plays active roles efficiently to ensure others synchronise together as one team on God’s Side always in Christ.  romans-12-4-5.jpgrom-12-4-for-just-as-in-one-body-we-have-many-members-and-all-the-members-of-the-body-do-not-have-the-same-functiondownload (1).jpgc10d4d7da7e40603a2bec2f066aefc43.jpgSpiritually speaking, if the parts see eye to eye there is love and unity, peace and joy. Not chaos and confusion similar to a body dysmorphy and dystrophy, so an outsider sees a well-formed whole person yet inside a person does not think so until corrective surgery solves the problem. In Christianity God tells believers to liken church of God to the individual body parts located in the right places for God’s purpose. Each part is equaly useful and helpful so none cannot take the overall total credit exclusively for their contribution. So the body of Christ is made up various parts that look different but are purposefully designed to suit each role. So therefore, time cannot be wasted in trying to redesign the eyes, ears, nose and mouth, hands and feet to suit fanciful purpose. God in HIS Wisdom created body parts assigned so each can work all things together for the greater good of mankind.BodyofChrist.jpgThis Biblical principles work in any place requiring discipline and productivity and not therefore an exclusive private idea to the church. Any organisation seeking the optimum performance must ensure that the right skills are allocated so eyes sees, ears hear, nose can scent, mouth talks, the hands work and feet to move on behalf of the company. The correct skills use of the talents increase efficiency, productivity or profit margins. Ensuring each part of the corporate body is correctly placed and also envisaged short-term, mid-term, long-term visions for the future well-being of all.   download.jpgb697e9e4b43ba81e1f6c785525021a10.jpg

God Loves to hear from all His Children so the prayer of the upright pleases God says Proverbs 15:8. Know for sure God Loves you as He KNOWS you. God is Close to you not remote, impersonal, and uninvolved in your daily lives. The Bible reveals God created humans for a very personal relationship with HimPrayer is the key way to engage in relationship so talk to God persistently throughout the day by Word of God. In Eden Garden God talked Adam and Eve spending time together sharing thoughts and feelings as a good father makes time for his children in Genesis 3:8. Good times with father God helps to discover the kind of day children have had. If any problem shares wisdom and provides help or offer solutions. So good children are interested in spending time with parents gaining wisdom, so God’s children spend time with the Heavenly Father. God already knows our minds before we say, share, or ask anything. God Knows all things, Jesus Open door to spend time with us, listening to our prayer is born out of His love and desire to have a real and vibrant relationship with us.  He is ready to listen and to guide us, but we must first come to the Source of Life. For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous and His ears are attentive to prayer in 1 Peter 3:12.

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So body of Christ makes sure continues to meet together with other believers as the Body of Messiah required in Bible in  Hebrews 10:24–25. We walk free of sin by the Grace of God’s forgiveness ourselves so join those who follow Yeshua. And need to continue to stay accountable in the Body to one another and uplift one another to live a life of holiness. Since each of us has been given ministry of reconciliation, we should be agents of healing and restoration. The world mus learn from authentic real Christianity applied living sermons to attract more people added daily by Yahweh God by agape love building Church in Christ. This principles do work in the home as well and in the community. All people need to have consideration for a real assessment of gifts of the Spirit of God in all human beings. By taking time to carefully analyse the best roles each person gets fulfilment of playing their mind. This helps identify the best talent most suitable for each role by members of a community. The church is example of God to all nations so must work with people in unity and love. The Church of God in Christ is God’s Kingdom family.

MOTHER’S LOVE ALPHABETS

A=Appreciate Mothers
B=Blessings to all Mums
C=Creator’s Giver of Life
D=Dedicated to Family
E=Excellent Spirit
F=Favourite Food Maker
G=Gratitude to God
H=Hopes For the Best
I=Impressive Inspiration
J=Joyful at all times
K=Knowledge giver
L=Lovely and Loyal

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 M=Maximises Resources

N=Nurtures Family
O=Opportunity giver
P=Passion for Peace
Q=Quality Family Time
R=Restoration of Hope
S=Success in Life
T=Thankful for Family
U=Unconditional Love
V=Vision Encourager
W=Wisdom for Living
X=Xenia Hospitality
Y=Youthful & Beautiful
Z=Zenith zeal for Life

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UNDER GOD’S UMBRELLA

art-festival-agetagueda-2.jpgGod’s Umbrellas are so big with enough room for all to be underneath come rain or sunshine. Times and seasons change so rapidly sometimes 4 seasons happen in one day. At times, within a moment of of less than an hour a sudden drastic new change takes place from a glowing hot sunshine day with sweats turning to  the coldest drab rainy day soaking wet. It is on such days the good old umbrella comes in handy. Especially after carrying it in vain without rain or hot weather the day you remove it thinking it is useless is the day the rain comes pouring down on you heavily. So the day the weatherman reassures you of excellent weather with lots of sunshine so you leave an umbrella behind is the day of the heaviest rainfall.10 Michael Fish is remembered in living as one responsible for such unpredictable weather. Yet without advanced satellite dishes predicting accurately, a changing weather condition depends on wind or storms that cannot be controlled by any man on earth. In the same way, life is similar to changeing situations of hot good times of the high life and the cold miserable days of unexpected rain. As the weather conditions change so does mood, health and wellness changes. It is therefore at times necessary to keep on dragging that umbrella around even if it pays off once ir twice a year when really needed. The inconvenience of carrying an umbrella around can seem like insane if seen holding unto it in all weather. 07.jpgYet it is useful to ignore the mockers to hold on to your umbrella. Those laughing may one day ask you to share your umbrella with them if they do not have their own. The irony is how life exactly deals with you in terms of unpredictable situations least expected. Like a reliable umbrella, the faithful continue in active faith and depend on Yahweh to keep them safe and secure in times of need. As long as the quality and durability of umbrella is excellent and strong it can withstand the storm. Spiritually speaking, so is God’s tough umbrella shielding you from all storms and weathers. Although realistic life experiences show storms may cause bruises, falls or wind carries up if still holding onto umbrella during tornadoes.agueda12 Such is life changing experiences that all face sometimes. Umbrellas are also used for dancing as popular song ‘Singing in the rain’ soaked despite umbrella or Big Bang Sheldon sitting on a bench without umbrella. Although these experiences are hilarious jokes, life mimics art and vice versa so can guide you to remember to carry an umbrella. So metaphorically speaking, God is your broad umbrella term representative of variety of colours, shapes abd sizes suitable for each need. So plays the dusl role of uplifting in hot joyful good days and shielding from the rain, wind, storm and snow. DIY-parasol-backdrop.jpgContinue to hold on to God in all seasons or weather, do not ley go because of disappointment of carrying one in vain. It is better to be   safe to have one and not need one or not prepare and be sorry when it rains. Like anything else in life what you put in you get back. Investing in a good durable umbrella is better than cutting corners to buy a cheap one that breaks quickly. So is dependable reliable investment spiritually in God for eternal life. Informed choice makes you trust in the One True Living God not cheap dead imitation version that cannot, see, hear, speak, talk, eat, drink   walk or save. For God is Love so operates by eternal love.red-frilly-heart-umbrella-weddings-birthdays_2510230God’s Divine Protection inbuilt future is everlasting life beyond all the storms of life. Yet God’s great umbrella needs to be maintained after wear and tear. By being in tune with God this requires knowing the spiritual seasons of life for your own good and interest so cannot be left to any chance. Another important factor is many different companies make these umbrellas but each person has favourite design, shape, size, manufacturer or the colour suitable for all occasions. Nobody can snatch neighbours umbrella because it is wrong colour or size. Each person is given a right to choose the umbrella as they desire or please. So live and let live diplomacy requires agreeing to disagree even if the neighbour’s garden parasol is not exactly to your taste. Umbrellas also provide shades from harsh elements of USV protection.  A long walk in mall or park bench under sun is impressive with beautiful colourful rainbow colours. 9405636238_ee8269a6be_k.jpgSo God made a colourful life simplified so to each carries own umbrella without intruding into another’s choice. These is what learning to live alongside others is about in life. Nobody has sole exclusive access to God as monopoly so whosoever comes to God Jesus will not cast out. One may not see it so or feel others deserve an opportunity to be given the chance to dwell in God’s presence. How ever God is willing to accept or receive all warts and all because God does not want anyone cast out of His Kingdom. Jesus said He will not reject any person of any shape, size, colour height, age or whatever to be part of His eternal salvation. The world’s events demand each person belongs to God directly by calling upon His Name to be saved. The things of these world shall pass away but God’s love and word shall stand forever. So God recognises variety in His worship even if it makes no sense whatsoever to others observing them. So God says leave the tares and the wheat so He will sort things out in the endtime. Focus on your personal life and family because there is no point gaining the whole world and loosing your soul. No matter weather conditions you just need a good strong umbrella personally to use or share with your loved one, family and a friend. In other words God wants you to mind your own business first before insisting on running other’s lives while neglecting your own life. Charity begins at home so start by loving yourself first then extending love to others in Christ.

MOVING IN TOGETHER

10-Signs-Its-a-Good-Idea-to-Move-in-with-Your-PartnerMoving in and living together is seen as most exciting time ever if a relationship is going well. Often many factors include being closer together because deeply in love and economic reasons. After falling in love the next level is planning future together hopefully for life. The focus of excitement to see it happen absolutely is amazing. You just cannot wait to cook dinner together, feel super domestic, and yeah, maybe you want to show off to friends you not only landed an awesome boyfriend but committing to each other even more. You know that you definitely deserve to be happy about this and even sure you are right because you got far to this point. You may think you can still mess things up or make some mistakes but decides to go ahead anyway. This is often the case for some people when one is totally fixated on these things so your relationship does not end. Researchers find 15 useful points couples must note when moving in together.Young Adult Using Laptop

1. Thinks Life Stays Same

Many think life at the beginning of their relationship stays in the same romantic phase permanently in state of euphoria. Hence choices and planning of decisions are based on utopia mindset of perfect happiness. Being in love means to them everything harmonises perfectly in state of synchronicity. The truth is anytime a big step is taken in relationship it means things are going to change. It is not a bad thing at all but means you have to admit that something has shifted and there is a new dynamic you need to deal with it. So a lot of couples make the mistake of not thinking anything changes when they decide to live together. Again, it is not anything negative it is just something to keep an eye on. By bringing two lives together essentially each has a different habit when it comes to how you live. So maybe you are a morning person and you kind of annoy everyone but hey, they are jealous and your partner is a total night owl. That means things can change a little bit. You might have to go to bed at separate times or find other times of day to hang out. You have to just figure this out but it’s definitely possible.15.jpg

2. SuperHigh Expectation

Most relationship definitely face super high expectations of each other some almost humanly impossible. So having super high expectations and partner not meeting them causes anger, frustrations and dissatisfaction. Maybe they do not know what you want them to do so they cannot meet them as they are not mind readers. Maybe they cannot meet them because you want too much and so they cannot give you what you are looking for. Unrealistic expectations can ruin totally or break a relationship. When you move in, you do not want to have crazy high expectations that no sane person could ever meet, let alone the person you love. Many couples make this mistake. They think moving in together totally solves problems in their relationship just for a while but think the negative completely disappears except the very best stuff. It is not real life so not the right way to go. Think of MasterChef with the identical ingredients, scales, cookers, tools, recipe given to a team of professionals. After watching practical demonstration of the exact recipe perfectly made by a gourmet chef their meals never look or taste the same. A certain level of experience and a personal touch always produces better quality. In the same manner, nobody can perfectly replicate exact clone of loved one no matter how deeply in love they may be. Worth noting love alone is not enough to transform anyone overnight into an image of fantasy partner existing inside one’s head. Some people never think anyone is perfect for them so need to create one themselves.   moving-in.jpg
3. Doing It For The Money

Sometimes it seems a good idea to move into a place together because financially it is a good idea. But you have to make sure you think about this. Just because you find a place that you are absolutely in love with does mean that you should make decision that you can both afford so check long-term if good idea to move in together. First of all, before you decide to live together you need to have a talk with written agreement to ensure you keep up with whatever decisions made. This means that both of you are willing and ready. Often times if you fall in love with a place and think that this is a good idea before taking the necessary steps you will realize that it can cause a whole lot of issues for the two of you. Make sure you are not moving at a faster pace than your relationship is ready for.moving-in-together.jpg

4. Respecting Differences

Again, you and your partner might have way more differences than you know and those things only become super- clear after you move in together. You could be a neat freak and they could be furthest thing from that. You must respect fact they thinking you are nagging always on their case to clean up or do dishes, if not you are asking for a major relationship trouble. You have to respect differences and talk about this properly. You can say something like, “Hey, I get it does not bother you if dirty dishes are left in the sink, but I do not love it, so maybe we can take turns.” If they truly love you so hopefully does since you are now living together is a pretty massive step. You, need to understand where both come from to negotiate teamwork and learn to agree to disagree on other differences.article-0-1842F93C00000578-336_634x373.jpg

5. Seeing Each Other 24/7

When couples move in together because they want to spend more time together, after already spending time hanging out and staying over at each other’s places they figure out it is time and they might as well live together. It just makes total and complete sense as a really great next step. But if you think moving in with a partner  means that you should see each other 24/7, you are on the wrong track. Yes, you love one another and yes, you want to see each other as much as you possibly can. But you both still need to live your own lives and see your families and see your friends and keep up your hobbies and interests. Do not just drop everything and everyone in your life now because you live with your partner. That is asking for a total disaster. Be honest about how much space you need and do the same partner and family.55_dating_advice-909388-TwoByOne

6.Nagging & Complaining

Pointing out what is wrong instead of an appreciation of what is right is nagging. Why ignore a 90% strong points to zoom in on 10% weaknesses as long as it is not a risk to life or aggressive behaviour that causes harm or any danger. Be honest are you perfect yourself? Nagging is the projection of self onto others to compel them to behave exactly like you. In other words you want your identical clone to just like you. You already know this is making a total and complete stereotype, so honestly, why would you do this? Do you want your partner to hate you and resent you and eventually leave you? You definitely want to cut this out and soon. A lot of couples make mistake of nagging each other when they move in together, so yes, it definitely goes both ways and guys can do this, too, even if you don’t think so. Your might ask to chill out a little bit about chores and taking care of apartment or might say you are hanging out with your friends too much and nag you about how you need to spend more time at home. Do your best and say you both need to communicate properly and that neither one of you should make the other one feel bad.First-Time-House-Buyers.jpg

7. Both Being Honest

Sometimes couples living together are not totally honest about what they each want. Maybe wants a certain apartment but your partner hates it so did not push for it or vice versa. Is not ideal situation if both move into an apartment and you do not both absolutely adore it, but yeah, it does happen. If you’ve moved in with someone before, you’ve probably made the mistake of not being honest about the kind of living accommodations that you’re looking for, and if you haven’t lived with anyone yet, you definitely will in the future. It is just one of the things that usually happens for good reason to make partner happy so wants the same thing for you, so you tiptoe around this kind of issue and act like everything is totally fine. Until, of course, it all comes crashing down later on always be honest because if not you pay it for it later.first_time_home_buyer_north_carolina_350

8. Treating As Y/our Place

Avoid mistake of acting an apartment is still totally yours if your partner moved in with you, you are not alone there. The same thing applies if you move into their apartment or you got a totally new place altogether. The truth is a place belongs to both of you now and you definitely have to get used to that. You cannot just invite people over without telling your partner and vice versa, and you cannot decorate it however, cannot randomly rearrange furniture without telling other person. You just cannot unless you want to start a huge argument and then, by all means, go ahead. This is part of what makes living together so new and difficult. It is not all fun and games as there are some real decisions to make with your partner. Even if you take initiative or want to surprise it is good to have approval out of respect not belittle partner. Hopefully, you will get used to realizing you share space now and things will be okay.Happy-Homeowners-(Website)-77267-1

9.Being Choosy & Picky

Being choosy, picky and overdemanding in the name of perfection drains partner emotionally. If you refuse to put up any painting your partner’s grandmother had given them or even painted because you claim it is super ugly and does not go with the rest of the apartment decor, you are not only being a jerk but making also a huge mistake. Same goes if actions any favourite pillow means a lot to you, so super attached to it. Many couples make mistake of deciding to live tougher and then getting super picky about furniture and decorations. It is easy to not see the forest from the trees, as they say to care so much about small irrelevant things that you do not realize the big picture of what really matters. The big picture of course, is that you love someone enough to live with them. That is no small thing. Choose safe well-structured wardrobes to use without falling apart easily posing risk especially to small children or infirm in household. Ensure best quality and durable safe bed/rooms, electric, gas pipes checked to ensure safety. Be realistic and do repairs regularly for peace of mind.Rido.jpg

10.Housewarming Parties

You want to have a housewarming party when you move into a new place and so desire goes up about a million points as you are moving in with your partner. You want to housewarming party, asking for tons of trouble and do not realize how much this strain on your relationship. The same thing will definitely happen if your partner wants to throw party earlier than you do or tries to control the whole thing. Talk to each other openly honestly about when you both want to throw this party and definitely think plan together the details and costs or clean up after.man-woman-floor-boxes-lying-down.jpg

11. Being A United Team 

Yeah, you have been living alone for a while now, and even though you’ve been in this happy and serious relationship, you have still had your own space. You could do what you want, when you want, and you made decisions about going to sleep or when to cook or when to clean without having to ask someone else if it  is okay. But now you are part of a team and it is not just your space anymore, so  that is a huge change. A lot of couples make mistake of not acting like they are part of a team now that they moved in together. You cannot just rearrange your entire living room without talking to the partner or decide to retile the bathroom floor without them running it by you first. You have to talk things out and figure them out together. If you do not want to do it this living arrangement might not work neither will relationship.article-2537031-0409F75F00000514-609_634x376.jpg

12.On The Best Behaviour

Yes, of course, you want to be on your best behaviour around other people, but around your romantic partner? Why would not just be yourself to relax a little bit more? A lot of couples think  when they move in together, they should not walk around in ugly sweats anymore or do the things they used to do. But that is a huge mistake and so wrong. You are sharing your life with your partner now, along with your apartment and deserve to be yourself and be real as possible. You can absolutely break out your ugliest sweatpants or slippers and just might become inside joke between two of you, which is totally cool. You should not be afraid to relax and act the way you did before when you just lived alone both do the same thing within reason, of course. You may not want to see the messiest so hopefully can reign it a little bit you two.couple-fighting-on-couch

13. Fighting Too Much

Some couples move in together and then automatically start fighting too much. The thing is this does not have to happen at all so can absolutely work hard to prevent it. It is easier to fight with someone you see all the time every single day. You expect them to figure things out so there is no reason to tell them exactly what is on your mind but you should be honest all the time. And yes, honesty is a good idea yet there is a fine line between honesty and being kind of mean and cruel. Do not be honest you hurt your partner’s feelings. If you both just share intimacy together but cannot seem stop bickering about little stuff, you need to set some ground rules and boundaries. Talk about how you will divide up chores, domestic stuff like cooking and cleaning. Until you figure that out you will keep fighting so not good for anyone.cohabiting_couple_182624410

14. Expecting Romance

This is a huge mistake lots of couples make, and is a pretty obvious one. Of course, you think things are going to be super romantic 24/7 when actually living with one you love the most in the world. But that does not take into account being sick, being exhausted, being stressed out at work and general life stuff. Moving in together is kind of like getting a taste of what is married life so you definitely will deal with a lot of things you never had to deal with before. You must be open and honest with each other about literally all you are dealing with, whether you want to or not. If you do not sleep together  every single night or have the hottest love life ever, that is not a bad thing. That means your relationship matures as love changes and gets back to normal. A point to remember is libido changes with small children so find new hide outs for timing intimacy passion. You need to be creative as not same as just the two of you before raising family.

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15. Have Zero Problems

You cannot have children then expect the home to remain as if you live in a show room because the house is an investment to sell on. Some do not let children sit on sofa, play, roll on floor in living room so raised like little soldier’s in ‘the sound of music.’ Perfect children and families only happily ever after relationship happens in TV drama, Mills and Boon’s romantic novels, real life is warts and all. Couples think once they make important decision to move in together are truly committing to each other so will have zero problems. If things get more complicated when you move in with someone it is normal but, that is not a bad thing at all unless you make it one. Both are own whole people and with your own thoughts, feelings, ideas and you have your own schedules and routines. Those are bound to clash so that is okay. That is what is supposed to happen. Do your best to be patient as the two of you get used to your new living situation and work out the issues within a good frame of time. Just because you are having a bit of trouble getting used to living together does not mean things are heading in a negative direction. Some recommend not moving in together before marriage often it does not work out in favour of the majority   who tried due to lack of commitment. At other times couples need support of the family members and friends to survive. So it is wise in both best interest not to exclude isolate or burn love bridges as you are too deeply involved to make room for any other person. That is too close for comfort so can suffocate the relationship. Above all, God said it is not good to be alone so seek God’s Face to guide and help you build up a sound foundation. Do not let your picker or physical looks attraction be the only deciding factor of relationship. A reliable interdependent relationship nurtures love essential to a mature love. Life is dynamic so changes take place daily in both if children are involved. Create play corner, child space include learning and music. Continue to date once a month minimum and get a baby sitter and do not call every second instead of relaxing with your partner. If possible for stability of children choose a location nearby with schools, church and parks locally. Aim for property longterm so children will not miss out on forming durable friendships and family support. Pay closer attention to household chores like removing rubbish. USD multilayered plastic bags if suitable inlaid with paper to soak wet waste that is not made into compost. Separate to recycle useful gabbage because one man’s thrash is another’s treasure. Keep baby waste out doors in safe covered bins do not breath it indoors including removing cat litter from tray daily for good hygiene practice.Small-trash-can-with-our-bag__pp-300x300bin5final1-1024x769.jpg

16. Household Duties

Shopping, cooking, laundry and cleaning duties among others must meticulously planned and not left to chance. Both will do certain tasks better so agree and make a to do list to remind yourself if not able to hire a housekeeper to do it for you. A happy life depends on smooth  running of the home and good time schedules as part of a team working together. Simple tips include advance preparation to be ahead of time. A dustbin layered with many bags with disinfectant in between each saves time to remove rubbish. Also clear water closet with clean tissue on top of unflashed loo, push down brush left in during flashing to cut the cost of calling plumber every five minutes. It prevents ungastly sight of a heavy soiling stubborn stains on brush that refuse to be shifted by flashing alone. Persist and repeat process many times until clean for next use. Never let toilet brush directly touch loo instead use tissues to form a barrier to keep the brush clean from harbouring germs and bacteria. After flashing loo, use fresh clean tissue to pick and wipe handle, disinfect brush after cleaning and wash hands thoroughly. Soak brush in a disinfectant  container holding brush in the toilet to continue daily disinfectation. If at first you do not succeed try again to leave brush inside bowl with tissue covering loo and flash but do not stuff lavatory with tissues out of sheer frustration to cost you plumber fees. If not sure what to do leave it with the experts in case it is a pipe blockage elsewhere. Life can be easily managed if you know how.

GRIEVE BY HOPE IN CHRIST

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  1. A charge to keep I have,
    A God to Glorify,
    A never dying soul to save,
    And fit souls for the sky.
  2. To serve the present age,
    My calling to fulfill:
    Oh, may it all my powers engage
    To do my Master’s will!
  3. Arm me with jealous care,
    As in Your sight I live;
    And O Thy servant, Lord, prepare
    A strict account to give,
  4. Help me to watch and pray,         And on my God Rely                 Assured to trust forever God   Through Christ Jesus my Lord.

TAX RETURN PAID RENT

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Single Mom Used Tax Return to Pay Whole Year’s Rent is news worth sharing as ex-drug addict. This fascinating true story of Knaack in South Carolina, who said she knows that fancy electronics and new shoes are not what is important for her family. “I work a minimum wage job, has two kids and I do it by myself. I just wanted to make sure that if I needed to take time off work if something comes up not going to lose my home” said Knaack 29 who used most of her $5600 tax return to pay her rent for the next 11 months. She used extra hundred to take her 2-year-old and 4-month-old out for a fun day. I  know that a roof over my kids head is what’s important. My kids do not want for anything because my priorities are straight,” Knaack wrote on post shared 150,000 times. Knaack is a recovering addict who wants to spread hope that it is possible to start life over.

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Life for anyone caring for small children by themselves can be stressful so some need to splash out and spend money to enjoy respite time as a reward. Others may use money for drugs and substances to try to numb the pain from stress. The interesting fact about this particular true story is she chose to resist temptation to do the right thing. Often any new item bought with hard-earned money seems like duly deserved reward for sacrifices. In this case, Christina Knaak chose to invest beyond entitled self-indulgence to secure a roof over family. This is really a choice encouraging to all working hard to change their lives to better their life first for themselves and their children. With God all things are possible so we can all take a cue from Christina to help bring change into our families to secure the future with the help of God. Well done Christina keep up the good work, although not easy you are doing the right thing to motivate people to have hope. An example to get priority right, parents of small children lead them growing up following adult behaviours and norms.

SON CARES SICK FOR MUM

By Her Side: George and his mother Betty

BY HER SIDE novel is about a son writing about an extraordinary experience caring for his mother with dementia diagnosis. George Hodgman was confronted with a life-changing decision when returning home for his mother’s 91st birthday. He was shocked by Betty’s ailing health and the realisation she had dementia, George put his own plans on hold to become her carer until the end. As Betty’s mind fragmented, George, from Missouri in America, rose to the challenges of caring for someone in the grip of dementia. George, 56, a former magazine editor and publisher, found strength he didn’t know he had and somehow despite his awful cooking and sometimes short temper the pair were just what each other needed. Inspired by experiences, George has penned Bettyville, which has become a word-of-mouth phenomenon. The memoir documents Betty’s final months as George stands by her side. It is an honest account of dementia, understanding and acceptance  and, ultimately, loss.Extracts from son's novel

In this special edited extract from novel Bettyville, George talks about caring for his mother and how, by losing her, he finally found himself. His mother could not live alone yet vetoed all conventional alternatives. He pretends to be in control when she said.“Do not put me in a place with a lot of old people.”  There were days he could not please her but he knew deep down that her crankiness was an act, a way to conceal her embarrassment at having to ask anything of anyone. On some days she would swing between being just about fine, barking orders at our cleaning lady, sharp enough to play bridge with her longtime partners. Yet at other times, she was a lost girl with sad eyes. I was scared I would be the one to break her. I wasn’t certain what I would wake up to. One day I discovered her trying to put her sock over her shoe.

HOW TO AVOID DEMENTIA

Reduce risk of dementia NHS guidelines:

Eat a healthy, balanced diet.

Maintain a healthy weight.

Exercise regularly.

Don’t drink too much alcohol.

If you smoke, stop.

Keep blood pressure at a healthy level.

If you need practical help for someone who has dementia – or you simply want to talk to someone who understands what you are going through – contact the Dementia Helpline on 0300 222 1122.

There is a wealth of information at alzheimers.org.uk. His mother was scared but would not speak of her fears, they were locked up tight. She kept her secrets. I kept mine. That was our way; we struggled with words. He imagined anything made her a little happier. So knew her days were numbered in the house, built by his father. He polished the silver, fixed her meals, bought her new bracelets, left Peppermint Patties under her pillow, drove her to battalion of doctors. And her days were filled with little hurts. She bruised easily in the end and was petrified of falling. It is what she feared above all. It became hard to get my mother excited about anything, even going to the city. A few years back, when taking Betty into St Louis for the periodontist stopped at Saks department store where he wanted to buy her a new outfit.

Spotting Signs Of Dementia

According to Alzheimer’s Association, there are ten signs to look out for:

1. Memory loss that disrupts daily life.
2. Difficulty planning or solving problems.
3. Difficulty completing familiar home tasks.
4. Confusion with times or places.
5. Trouble understanding visual images and spatial relationships.
6. Problems with speaking or writing.
7. Misplacing things and losing the ability to retrace your steps.
8. Poor judgement.
9. Withdrawal from work or social activities.
10. Changes in mood and personality.

After reading these signs it was then he noticed the depression had settled into her lethargy. She looked tired and was unable to summon the energy to shop for new clothes. He found it was terribly difficult when his mother was sad, angry with herself, tired of trying, even living. So found it physically exhausting and challenging even in terms of small things like remembering when all her appointments were or when she took what pill. But it was the depression he felt when she was depressed that almost slayed him the pain she felt he could not control that sent him to bed, unable to face her. It came to the point where he had to be satisfied if he could find one thing each day  a fancy dessert, a ride to a pretty place, a little gift that made her smile. Sometimes out of nowher could see the little girl my mother once was in her eyes. She was funny, sweet, bossy and mischievous. It is necessary to have regular check up to monitor changes.

So son wrote novel on extraordinary experience caring for ailing mother after dementia diagnosis to help others dealing with dementia relatives. Onus on men to care for parents is becoming a phenomenon not known in the past. It is important to get respite care to help both the carer and one cared for.