Healing heart from grief is important to transition from ovewhelming unsettling daunting changes endured. The sudden impact of shock affects immune system eating, sleep, other physical changes. A person deals with grief by displaying an emotional symptom associated with grieving. Emotional symptom prolonged by complicated grief includes:
- Increased irritability
- Preoccupation with loss
- Inability to show or experience joy
While these emotional symptoms are normal in the days and weeks after a traumatic event, they can be indicators of a more serious disorder if they do not fade over time. To some it surprises that grief is not entirely emotional. There are very real physical effects grief has on the body. Some of the physical symptoms of grieving, according to those grieving are:
- Digestive problems
- Chest pain
- Sore muscles
Though these symptoms are normal during the grieving process, you should remember to contact your doctor if you experience severe physical symptoms. When you are in mourning, you usually feel under-rested or overwhelmed. Your body is probably letting you know it feels distress. You feel you have no strength left for your own basic needs, let alone the needs of others. Actually, one literal definition of the word “grievous” is “causing physical suffering.” Yes, right now your body is telling you it has, just like your heart, been “torn apart” and has some special needs!Your body is very wise so will try to slow you down and invite you to authentically mourn the loss touching life. Emotions of grief experienced affects body energy. Mourning life losses from the inside out experience requires caring for ourselves physically to integrate loss emotionally and spiritually. The body adapts slowing down to prepare mourning process of life losses. The main physical response to loss is with trouble sleeping and low energy. It is termed a “lethargy of grief” caused effects of lack of a normal sleep patterns disruption. Difficulty getting to sleep, waking up early in the morning and trouble getting back to sleep. During grief journey the body needs to rest more than usual. As one finds yourself getting tired more quickly at the start of the day.Sleeping normally after loss is unusual. as sleep is the primary way of releasing control. Experience of life loss is a great loss of control. At a subconscious level, does not want to lose any more control by sleeping. So sleep problems are very natural in the face of life losses. Muscle ache, pain, shortness of breath, feelings of emptiness in stomach, tightness in the throat or chest, digestive problems, sensitivity to noise, heart palpitations, queasiness, nausea, headache, increased allergy symptoms, changes in appetite, weight loss or gain, agitation generalized tension are all ways the body reacts to a loss encountered in life. The stress of grief suppresses the immune system so makes vulnerable to physical problems. A chronic existing health challenge may become worse as one may not feel fully in control of how body is responding. It can be difficult to slow down to care for the body surrounded by messages to be strong in the face of grief. Some think doing things like, keeping busy, carrying on or need to put the past in the past will quickly help to overcome sorrow. These discourages from practicing the physical self-care, needed because it invites one to postpone or suspend grieving process. During mourning, need to slow down, to turn inward, to embrace feelings of loss, to seek and accept support is essential. It is not easy to care for physical being in a mourning. Physical self-care takes time, mindfulness and discernment. Physical self-care is vitally important to recover especially the loved one would not like to inflict pain. Priceless body is the house you live in so requires care maintenance to protect from outside elements. The body requires honour, value kindness as a gentle quality of life depends on care for body. Lethargy of grief experienced is natural mechanism intended that slows down and encourages care for your body. Practicing a physical self-care does not mean feeling sorry for yourself; rather it means allowing yourself to have courage to pay attention to special needs. It is in physically nurturing self that eventually allows time and loving attention needed on journey through grief to discover the fullness of living and loving again. That is encouragement to anyone in the midst of grief to put “nurture my physical self” right at the top of the daily to-do list. So taking care of the physical body during natural vulnerable time is essentially a good personal guardianship. Accepting personal responsibility for own special health needs is self-nurturing. Provide loving care so believe you can overcome grief endeavour body transition through changes stage of responsibility and care for the body. The pain of grief is so deep life itself seems falls apart through focus on loss. Exclusive extreme grief affects a person’s normal behaviour patterns that is why time is given to deal with the loss. Each person grieves differently so no set fixed method to grieving and healing.God says mourn with hope, divine faith gives life meaning and purpose restoring muted turned completely off life. Stay in tune with God even if part of you wants to keep off. Believe God Can help take care of your physical body, over time and rewards your spirit, to be re-ignited to find renewed meaning and joy in life. Self-care is about being reminded to care for body with right actions, right living, and right thinking. Practice the self-care that believes you deserve love enough to carry it out. Practice of Presence of God daily, thoughtful care of grieving body is a clear reflection of your holiness, and a lack of self-care represents an internal disregard for your being. As difficult as it may be, caring for body is vital to healing surviving and longer-term life thriving. Many effects of bereavement that strike while coping with grief symptoms are very unnatural, scary and can be bizarre. Almost all perfectly normal! Do not lose mind going through normal and healthy grieving process. Following effects of a bereavement often expressed are:“I’m exhausted!”— the physical signs and symptoms of grief“Are you sure I’m not going crazy?”— emotional and mental symptoms “Where are all my friends?” — social changes “So where was God during all of this?” — spiritual challenges “Is this bizarre, or what?” — unusual experiences Do I need help are warning signs that the professional help needed. Physical symptoms experience exhaustion, muscle tightness, weakness, physical body, pain, fidgety restlessness or lack of energy. The work of grieving expends tremendous amount of energy. Fatigue is self-limiting but improves over time. An insomnia or falls asleep too much disturbing dreams. Sleeping pills do not provide level and quality of sleep body needs. Occasional effective mild sedating in moderation but do not fall into habit of popping a sleeper every night not advisable especially unhealthy for “grief relief.” Some experience the loss of appetite, or overeating, nausea, “hollow stomach” indigestion intestinal disorders or diarrhoea, excessive weight gain or loss but stomach settles down. Headaches, shortness of breath, chest pressure, tightness, heaviness in throat if symptoms mild or improve fine. So any chest discomfort, shortness of breath, accompanied by nausea sweating can be a sign of heart attack so call for help for serious symptoms to be safe than sorry. The body is communicating about special needs. So befriending and mindfully giving attention to a physical symptom helps discover body’s natural strength cope intelligence mechanisms. Effects of bereavement is hard and very painful. Almost like part of the physical body being ripped apart. Tearing apart from loved ones is sad and traumatic. Effects of bereavement after sustaining big loss like this, you will be a changed person. You will survive grief, but life, and you, will never be the same again. It is crucial not to get lost in grief totally to prove love for departed. Crucifying self with excessive grief and sorrow does not do any good to yourself or the loved ones surrounding life and living with you. To become so absorbed in grief as if others around you are non existent causes self destruction. Some feel left out excluded by ignoring them as if not good enough like the departed. Others feel abandoned by total absorption of focus on death not experienced before. So remember family unit teamwork is essential with all loved ones joining HEAVENLY Joy Celebration. And this will impact changes in family and social life in some way. You may well lose or gain, some friends over this. The family support abundant immediately after loss drips. Friends, family, gather around to provide support in traditional mourning rituals. After a while, though, cards, flowers stop coming and relatives go back home. So the “support system” will get back to their lives and seem to “abandon” you. Six months later, when truly realizing the reality of loss achingly lonely, that is the time that you probably need support the most. Unfortunately, most everyone is gone by then and those present may be urging you to “get over it” and move on with your life. So sadly, some friends will not call anymore, and may even be avoiding you. It was easy for them to give you hugs and shed tears with at funeral, but the difficult part is hard and awkward for them. They don’t know what to say often or how to help anymore. Some they stay away. One of the unexpected effects of bereavement.You might want to withdraw socially, voluntarily isolate yourself from others. You may feel detached, disinterested in your usual activities and interests. You may feel suspicious, irritable and even hostile. Part of these feelings is due to a feeling “they just don’t understand what I’m going through”and your impatience with their lack of understanding. You know what? It’s probably justified. Your social life will normalize somewhat as you progress through your grief and slowly rejoin the land of the living. But some of your prior relationships will be forever altered. So the other effects of bereavement include helpless crushing grief forced by spiritual crisis. Challenge or question faith or religious beliefs. You may be angry at your God, or feel that life is empty and has no meaning.
- Why did this happen?
- Was there some purpose for it?
- Was this a part of God’s plan?
- What reason could He have to allow a senseless death or suffering?
take away pain, shame, hopelessness or helplessness, to clear away all effects of trauma, sadness of withdrawn withered spirit, loss of hope, loss of joy, fear and distrust, restlessness, disappointment, from thoughts, cellular memory, heart, mind and body.” Do it again tomorrow night and every night until you feel light so the weight and burden lifted off the shoulders and the yokes broken in the spirit, cells cleansed and feels restored. Continue as long needed to repeat this prayer for healing so joy is full again in Jesus Name. God Restores beauty for all ashes, Joy comes in the morning and God gives a garment of praise for mourning turns sorrow to dancing in Jesus Name. Thank God for Hearing, Healing, Helping Answering your humble prayers in Jesus Name. Please God and promote, support, share testimony to help others recover from grief to heal in Jesus Name.