Love is a strong emotion that compels one to pursue relentlessly to enjoy and share the good times. When love is right one feels like walking on air. So one thinks, dwells on love and speaks to all who listen about love of one’s life. Love warms the heart and brings joy to those around the couple and family. On the other hand if it goes wrong negative emotions is worse so pain of betrayal, bitterness and rejection causes some to want to hurt a person once loved.
James 3:7-9 in the Bible says, every kind of beast and bird, of reptile and sea creature, can be tamed and has been tamed by mankind, but no human being can tame the tongue. It is restless evil, full of deadly poison. With it we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse people who are made in the likeness of God. Others go out of their way to tell people how good they are, to prove a person’s fault relationship did not work without taking responsibility.
Some go to extremes to slander, spread hateful rumours, to gossip, to destroy for character assassination. So smear a person thinking nobody else will love them in revenge. They cannot stand to see ex partner happy with new partner. So fester with jealous hatred, anger, bitterness consumed by toxic poison of hatred not compassion. Some stalk the person following them and not letting go and let God heal them. It is better to make informed choice to avoid rushing to regret later with children involved.
Meanwhile they may cause break up due to their obsessiveness, insecurity, low self-esteem and incompatibility yet never acknowledge wrong. Psychopaths take it further ending ex-partner’s life. Immediately destroy themselves so face consequences for life destroying others. Love is a long – term investment not taught in classroom like career training with exams to qualify for the excellent professionalism. No standard method of assessment exists to predetermine competence so requires family input, character, grown up communication to understand each other meaningfully.
Rejection abandonment is sometimes learning curve opportunity to evaluate life, weigh other options, reassess life. God writes down words spoken, actions done or left undone to judge believers. Many people move on despite intense painful times, betrayal disappointment to recover find someone compatible. A greater door opens with a more suitable person in one’s life. It may tarry but do wait for right person from God to enjoy love life more abundantly to the full.
Do not rush on rebound to get involved with anyone to have someone than be alone. Self-discipline and self-control is required in singleness so gives strength and ability to endure during the tough times in the relationship. Raising and maintaining a family responsibility is handwork. Ability to handle unsettling pain positively with hope is a good sign of Godly family wisdom and growth.
A test of endurance of life skills is to discover the sense of achievement. For what does not kill a person makes them stronger as overcomer with a great sense of accomplishment. Love is not a perfect perpetual time of happiness but includes life challenges. Maintain good family relationship so not burn bridges. Love is too stressful under pressure to go it alone without the support of loved ones and family. Share Godly love this season for God is Love.