THE GODLY WOMAN LOVES GOD, IN TUNE WITH HER MAKER SO SUBMITS TO SPOUSEHAS CONFIDENCE IN GOD WHO SUSTAINS HER FAITH THROUGH DIFFICULT CHALLENGES IS DEVOTED TO FAMILY, FRIENDS, COMMUNITY, WORKS HARD, RESPECTS AUTHORITYSHE LOVES MORE, SERVES, SACRIFICES, PRAYS, TRUSTS, SEEKS THE PRIZE AND DREAMS BIGSHE IS DIGNIFIED WITH INTEGRITY SO MENTORS OTHERS BOTH YOUNG AND OLD
Bible says in James 4:6-8 to:- 1. Submit to God. 2. Resist the devil 3. and the devil will flee from you. To submit to means to yields to God listening to His words and His voice to fulfil his plans and purposes for our lives. There are many voices screaming out loudly to present us various views and opinions. On the surface some of these views may often sound great and seem good for us. The Bible says in Psalm 1, Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor stands in way of sinners or sits in the company of wicked ones who don’t walk in Godly steps of Christ. This is not to live like hermit monk in world not partaking in world’s teaching but to please God. Submit to God is to seek His Face concerning all the decisions of our lives to give Christ access into all areas of the secret inner thoughts entertained, and things watched or done in private.Submit to God for Divine Prevention or Protection from consequence of choices made by not giving God HIS due regard if it turns wrong. Bible says in Proverbs 14:12 and Proverbs 16:25, there is a way seems right to man but the end thereof are the ways of death and destruction. Submitting to God means coming under Secret Hidden Shelter of the Most High God in Psalm 91. Submitting rearranges oneself under command of God’s Divine Viewpoint. The devil is against children of God by challenges the loyalty of God’s Children God Trusts knows, dependable reliable witnes of HIS GLORY. Pass tests to defeat devil by the blood of the Lamb Jesus and testimony in Jesus Name. One is Covered by Blood of Jesus, anything, anyone, whatsoever tries to fight you to reckon first with God. John 5:30 on Jesus says He does all things by approval God gives does not seek to do His Own Will but does the Will of God Who Sent Him.Resist the devil:- Resist devil means to take authority in Jesus Name and say no to devil by refusing to accept the devil’s seduction. Since we are hidden in Christ in God in Him we live and move and have our being safe under God’s Mighty Wings by Mighty Power of Living God working through us. His words does not return void but accomplishes all its sent to do. Once under Mighty Protection of God’s armour, fully covered from head to toe, equipped with the shield of faith and the sword of the Spirit of God. we do not operate by in own strength any more. me people overate the devil and present him almost as more fearful than God. However the opposite is true, the devil is coward who exploits and preys on the fears of people. And fear is a false evidence appearing real. As we delight in doing God’s Will daily in Psalms 40:8 live by God’s Grace, keep God’s Law is within our heart, there is no room for the devil to enter in.The devil will flee from you:- yes you scare devil in the full armour garment clothing in God’s Presence so devil flees. Though devil goes around like a roaring lion looking for those to devour its those who permit him but he flees from you. Therefore, submit to God and resist the devil. Psalm 143:10, says daily must ask God to Teach us to do HIS Will as Our God to let God Spirit’s lead us. Matthew 6:10, we must continue to pray for God’s Kingdom to Come on earth and His Will be done on earth as is in heaven. Doing God’s will against all odds in Matthew 12:50, is to do the Will of Father God in heaven as Jesus’ brother, sister, mother, God’s Family. Jesus stayed loyal to God despite His adversity in Matthew 26:42, Jesus prayed, saying, “My Father, if cup cannot pass away unless I drink it Your will be done. Jesus laid down His Life proved resurrection power to devil.Upload Gospel music with instruments to listen to helps as perfect Jesus submit to God. Jesus’ perfect example to follow daily in John 7:17 if anyone is willing to do God’s Will know Jesus’ teaching from God so Jesus does not speak of Himself. In Acts 21:14, believers persuaded not to be silent always to bsay “The Will of be God done!” Romans 12:2 says believers not to conform to the world transforms by renewin your mind to prove will of God is good and acceptable, perfect. In Ephesians 6:6, submit to God not by way of eye service, people-pleasers, servants of Christ do God’s Will from their heart, surrender to God. Under Management of God Handles all concerns in life. God surrounds with His soft Loving Feathers trust God to take care of us as our KING, LORD, SOURCE in Jesus Name. Submit to God for your own good so it will be well with you and to live long eternally. Hebrews 13:21, God equips in every good thing to do His will, working in us to be pleasing in His sight in Jesus Christ, to whom be the GLORY forever and ever. Amen. In James 4:15 to submit actions to God and say, “If the Lord wills, we will live and do this or that in Jesus Name.” We boast in Christ in God not our achievements but by the grace of God give Him credit, Glory, Honour dedicating all achieved to God. In 1 John 2:17, the world is passing away and its lusts; but the one who does the will of God lives forever. Submit to God and submit to one another in fear of God in reverence of Christ submit in Ephesians 5:21. Submitting to God draws us nearer God, protects from the devil and eternally gives us Peace with God in Job 22:21-30 in Jesus Name with thanks to God. Cover yourselves in blood of Jesus Christ daily. Praise God.
Diva drama queen lack manners ignore protocol, disgusting user annoys people to boost celebrity status. Has no sense of duty with contempt for others is so rude insecure shallow. Her fake false persona hypocrite wears mask worn to be what she is not, makes her ridiculous, unreal, offends others. Deluded think in control makes mockery of herself stubborn fear drives them to bully others for power think above others. Lack consideration for others without any self awareness of how they offend. They hurt people for lust for power, take advantage of others. Tolerated, have short fuse, angry all the time, negative nothing is good enough. High maintenance arrogant no humility think negative attention means famous. Self destruct by making wrong choices, ignore good advice. Miserable, proud so lack dignity and decorum. Diva drama queen is overwhelming phenomenon of pedigree selfishness tsunami relentless unrestrained emotions. Are compulsive explosive, hyperactive have tantrums so hard to bear. Loud, cursing, swearing, maniac, pibolar, wants others silent and quiet, loving, hugging and kissing them. Gives victims mixed messages with rude behaviour tortures victims compelled to obey them blames them for problems. Emotionally unstable perfectionist don’t respect or value others. To them people are objects used abused discarded if not of anymore use to them. But despite all attention seeking behaviours forced on others cry wolf over petty insignificant issues. Indulged spoilt brat prat in own bubble world far from reality. Shops for most expensive quality items for herself insists on saving money buy cheap stuff for friends to maintain imposed status. Never content, puts pressure and stress on others bullying talks non-stop forces victims to listen to false stories. People bend over backwards to do her bidding. Scales falls off reality sets in realise they are conned by fake behaviour. Friends feel sorry for her stick with her, others run for their lives. Lives life through others claims cannot live by herself but those who stand by her are subjected to verbal abuse. She is a party animal, life and soul of a party gets to men targeted to hurt them. Takes over his life, causes damage to people. If anyone looks in the direction of her man or her man looks at a woman, nags him and accuses him of fancying and preferring them to her. His life is a living hell if she earns more than him. Every second possesive, must call or respond in middle of attending to others at work professionally. Torments with underhand tactics jokes, punishes him, withdraws affection and intimacy. Orders him to do a million things at the same time knows cannot multitask well. God help him if he gets any instruction wrong. She is a hypochondriac with too many things wrong with her so cannot function or do things on her own. She screams and yells neighbours hear her business, shouts insults to diminish him but he ignores her arrogant behaviour.She knows better than those around her so must always have the last words. And bullies those who disagree with her and rants and raves at all who stands up to challenge her. Her house symbolises her shallow image of no value more money than sense. Drama queen on the phone complains about her perceived problem all day. She complains about services despite best help given by professionals. She has God and Messiah complex and a grandeur of delusions thinks the world revolves around her. Ignores a genuine sound advise of experts so domineering thinks knows things better. Her attitude of snobbery and rudeness is offensive. Her life gets worse as mistakes glaringly seen by all except her. Refuses to adjust her life prefers to suffer in the name of controlling her life. Many people try to help her but ignored her life a lot worse. They dismiss privileged status to moan. Drama queens blows everything in life out of proportion do not know different lack awareness and reality check. They leave trails of damage like bull in china shop cause offence of hurtful behaviour to others. Demand most expensive and latest fill rooms spilling over complain without support. Checks her partner’s phone, bank account talks to him rudely incite toxic fear to control to humiliate. Always provocative looking for fight for negative attention but person threatens to leave cries and seduces to stay. Pleads says she loves him, cannot live without him. Makes him feel so indispensable to meet her needs by manipulative greedy needy behaviour. Stockholm syndrome guilt trips, shows her true colours again. She never does anything wrong, blames others as responsible for her problems not making her happy. When going gets tough slips to saboteur victim archetype compounds misery and hurt those she deceives claiming to ‘love’ them.She is always feeling sorry for herself so makes those around her have sympathy for her but she does not care about any one. She has no real presence of feelings and lacks inner beauty. Deprives others of joy but denies she is not flourishing or thriving. Is permanently professional victim always unhappy so those around her must be unhappy. If unwell all must run after her twice as ever before. If TV program on not allowed by her cannot watch it. She must choose her favourite programs, food prepared only favourite or will not eat it. The house is decorated to her only her taste or favourite colour no consideration of partner’s input. She must have final say on all matters as she thinks she always knows best. Sadly she is greedy, thinks the grass is greener but finds out too late demands loyalty, duty and humility. Craves to be the centre of attention at all costs to hurt people goes out to sabotage people. Rebels thinking it gives makes her powerful but it draws negative attention and people hortified by her rude behaviour. Hurting people hurt others because because they do not know any better. So they need to search inside themself to find the keys to their life. They are narcissists so manipulates people with flying monkey sugars who insult people due to ignorance. They are social climber wannabes without talent or real skills resort to seductive tactic to lure men with their sexual perversions. Use dirty pussy whipping love bombing trick to seduce men but discard them as they make the next move to hit another victim bulldozed on their damage trail. Evil tactics Jezebel used to lure men and turn them into helpless weak victims to con them to enrich themselves. The love of money is the root of all evil they gain the whole world but lose their soul. But Jesus said a man’s life is not made up of their material possessions. Real genuine life is gift of God to nurture and sustain yourself not a love tank filled by others. God will judge and require account of a Diva’s behaviour and actions in life and whether one believes in God or not God will judge how you treat and dishonour elders and people. Stop taking drugs to destroy your life and seek medical help. The smallest thing she does over rated magnified out of all proportions. Those able to impact to help her improve her life are seen as threats constantly query their motive. She is never relaxed in life full of drama, tension, distract attention from her bad evil ways. Creates divisive toxic atmosphere to play people so uses unhealthy control freak acts put people down. Her behaviour is so shocking but she unable to recognise her faults direct blame on others. Lacks focus, alertness to do the right thing. People soon notice her depressive addictive ways and those who hang around her run. Everything is done only on her terms people implode, shut down. She rattles on her own judge and jury, self indulges, exposes her true character. She is unforgiving, vindictive, constantly orders everyone around. She decides what she thinks is best for her best friends. She chooses a partner/s for her friends and breaks up relationships, keeps her friends serving her needs first at her beck, call doing her bidding. She breaks golden rules does not treat all as she demands to be treated. Deprives the others from what she enjoys herself and brags about. Her phone is on private no one dare touch or use it but vets friends. Writes letters to drive wedges between friends gains fake friendship advantage but discovered too late she played them.
If you are diva drama queen making life miserable for others change stop your bad evil actions. You know the damage you caused many people too polite and too refined to bend to kowtow to your uncourteous behaviours. You missed on how much you will gain from learning from the few bold courageous people who truly love and care about you. The Bible says all must look after interest of others so diva drama queen stop acting like Jezebel whose selfish ruthless ways destroyed her life. She did not care who she destroyed for her personal gain lied, killed people in her way to steal land, destroyed the king and his nation for her diva drama queen lifestyle. Good news is God loves diva drama queen but hates and abhors their bad behaviour towards others for their own selfish benefit. God sent Jesus to die for them to transform them and change them into better people for their own good. God says all those who love, obey and serve Him are blessed to sit with God. Consider your ways and stop hurting people in the name of power or control. Victims of a diva drama queen, need help immediately to be freed from their bondage under. Son of God Jesus sets free indeed. Diva addiction abusive manipulative ruthless control so cannot see or reason logically. They live in their own bubble world have no sense of true understanding of the real genuine love.
Whether it’s the spine, the heart, the brain, or the digestive system, we absolutely are what we eat. But the great news is that small dietary changes you make today can add up to loads of bone protection. What you eat can directly impact your spine. You may not think that your diet affects your spine, but it actually plays a key role. A healthy diet consists mostly of lean proteins, healthy fats, lots of fresh fruits, vegetables is ideal for building a lean body and muscles support spine.It is a topic I have a lot of experience with and one I am passionate about. The truth about back pain and spine issues is that most people will experience them at some point in their lives. Another fact? And this is an important one. Most of those people won’t need surgery. Long-term dietary changes can benefit your spine condition. If you are overweight, ask a health professional to help you lose weight, especially abdominal fat.
Most people can do this safely by eating fresh, raw, or steamed vegetables every day eating two or three pieces of fresh fruit every day eating five to seven fish meals a week eating three to six ounces of clean, lean beef, poultry, lamb, or game meat daily.To improve the condition of your spine, supplement your diet with a multivitamin along with a B-complex and Omega-3s, as they have been shown to help decrease pain in the nerves of the spine.
Especially when it comes to the waist line, excessive weight is a strain on the spine, and is a major contributor to chronic back pain and poor general health. I know this blog is supposed to be about spine surgery.Eggs are also an excellent source of protein for most people using olive oil on salads and for cooking daily eating fresh nuts and seeds. Almonds, walnuts, and pumpkin seeds give us high quality, healthy fats
If you do not have a regular habit of exercise, invest in instruction with a professional who can teach you how to strengthen your muscles and protect your joints. Certain exercises will be very good for some spine conditions, and possibly harmful for others. An exercise professional is your best choice for guidance to design a safe, effective program just for your needs.
Obesity is on the rise in our country and so too is back pain. The relationship between the two has been studied extensively and the proof is clear our bodies simply were not designed to carry around too much extra weight. Since spine bears brunt of the load, treat it well. Maintaining a healthy diet is one of the most important ways to do that.
Bon Appétit. Unfortunately for the millions of people suffering from chronic low back pain, there is no one certain cure. Drink at least 8 large glasses of water or herbal tea daily. Avoid fruit juices or beverages with colouring and preservatives added. This includes soda pop.
Eliminate simple sugars. Get rid of sweets and starchy, refined white flour foods from your diet. Avoid packaged foods with added preservatives and colourings. Take a high quality multiple vitamin/mineral supplements 3 times daily with each meal. f you have any form of Arthritis or any inflammatory condition, take a pure fish oil supplement. Most people are helped by one to three grams of combined omega 3 fatty acids daily. Look for EPA and DHA on the label. Add vitamin D3 to your supplements; make sure you get 800 IU to 1000 IU daily. Add vitamin D3 to your supplements; make sure you get 800 IU to 1000 IU daily.
You may need more if you have a history of malabsorption, celiac disease, inflammatory bowel disease, cystic fibrosis, gastric bypass surgery. Foods that are good for bone health is composed of two things, namely calcium and vitamin D. Calcium is an essential mineral for the body. What I often find about people who are new to a condition that is negatively impacting their spine, and overall health is that they are hungry for information about what they themselves can do to make the pain go away. In addition to those people are the ones caring for someone experiencing debilitating back pain; they want to know what they can do to prevent themselves from travelling down the same path.
So today, I want to explore the topic of nutrition and bone health. It isn’t something we necessarily hear much about in the mainstream media is it? I bet you can recite to me the virtues of Omega-3 fatty acids for heart health or the importance of a diet rich in colourful fruits and vegetables to help stave off cancer.
But what about a diet with the health of your bones (of which your spine is the largest) in mind? Do you know that looks like or why it matters? Read on to find out. The health and well-being of every structure in our bodies is based largely upon our vitamin and mineral composition.
A View on Vitamins :While it’s true that many of the beneficial vitamins that help keep the bones strong can be found in supplement form, your best bet is to get your dose via the foods you eat. You can follow a vitamin supplement regimen to a “t,” and you won’t see the benefits if your diet otherwise consists of heavily processed and unhealthy foods. Your best bet is to get your daily dose by eating highly nutritious foods. What types of foods should you focus on.
Here are a few to consider:
Meat – There are now more recipes than ever before that consist of the highly nutritious parts of these animals. Beef, calf and chicken liver, for example, are significant sources of Vitamin A (helps repair tissue and aids in bone formation), Vitamin B12 (important for healthy bone marrow), Vitamin K (necessary for proper absorption of calcium into bones) and Iron (necessary for healthy cells, muscles support spine. That’s a huge punch of bone-healthy vitamins in just one piece of food.
Mean Greens – Spinach packs a big Vitamin A and B12 punch, while frilly kale and broccoli are great sources of Vitamin K and Iron. Many nutritionists say the greener the vegetable, the better. But if you have an aversion to how these veggies taste in their raw form, get creative. Find recipes that help you incorporate them into your favourite dishes while your palate adjusts to their flavour.
Outstanding Oranges – Did you know that orange fruits and vegetables including nectarines, cantaloupe, apricots, carrots and sweet potatoes are all great sources of Vitamin A? Remember, this vitamin is essential for repairing damaged tissue in the body as well as in the formation of strong bones. And here we thought it was only calcium that did all the heavy lifting in that department.
Dutiful Dairy – Depending on who you consult, dairy can get a pretty bad rap these days. From stories of intestinal upset to other autoimmune conditions, sifting through the pros and cons can seem daunting. If you’re lactose intolerant, then avoiding dairy products might make sense. But for those who aren’t, there are big calcium and Vitamin D, B12 and K benefits. The quality of the dairy you consume and making sure it isn’t filled with added “fake” ingredients or unnecessary sugars is the key to keeping dairy as part of your healthy diet in check.The key is to find what works for you, often through trial and error. Medical approaches usually focus more on addressing anatomical problems in the lower back, but treating pain is often more than just treating the medical issue. For best results, try a well-rounded approach. We’ve borrowed these tips to reduce or relieve lower back pain from our readers. Try them out, and let us know which ones work for you. Many lower back problems can irritate nerve roots and cause pain. See Lower Back Pain Symptoms, Diagnosis, and Treatment
Release your inner endorphins
Endorphins, hormones made naturally in the body, can be just as strong as any manufactured pain medication. When endorphins are released in the body, they help block pain signals from registering with the brain. They also help alleviate anxiety, stress, and depression, which are all conditions that are often associated with chronic back pain.
Read more: Depression and Chronic Back Pain
Insomnia and Back pain
Out of all medical conditions, pain is the number one cause of insomnia. Approximately 2/3 of patients with chronic back pain suffer from sleep disorders. Paradoxically, inadequate sleep can make back pain worse. This vicious cycle makes it ineffective to treat just one of the problems. Both the sleep problems and the chronic pain need to be treated. See Chronic Pain and Insomnia: Breaking the Cycle. We have borrowed these tips to reduce or relieve lower back pain from our readers. Try them out, and let us know which ones work for you. Many lower back problems can irritate nerve roots and cause pain. See Lower Back Pain Symptoms, Diagnosis, and Treatment.
There are many options for treating sleep problems that accompany chronic lower back pain:
- Relaxation techniques
- Psychological techniques
- Cutting back on caffeine
- Eating the correct foods
- Getting the right amount of exercise
- Writing your worries down
Often, a combination of approaches will work best. See Snacks, Supplements, and Scents to Help You Sleep and 11 Unconventional Sleep Tips: How to Get to Sleep and Stay Asleep Why is Exercise and Massage Good for Back Pain? There is massage therapy as a non-invasive and low risk technique which can be used to treat both acute and chronic back pain. Dr. Lawrence DelRe gives simple, yet powerful techniques to teach people how to correctly massage in y-tube video tutorials on-line. This is used in conjunction with a comprehensive complementary supplementary massage table giving 15 best techniques built for comfort complete with a face cradle for alignment of the spine.
Access shows a reflex connection between the organ system of the spine and how to rectify malfunction of an organ on somebody’s back. Massage therapy may reduce pain caused by spinal stenosis to relax affected areas of your spine. The prominent goal of massage therapy is to relieve tension in the muscles in the neck and back that supports the spinal column. It is a profitable gain to the standard of quality of improving health through investing in massage if suitable and related to you. Seek your doctor’s advice before you do anything with regard to your spine.
Exercise your core
The muscles in your abs and back play a critical role in supporting the lower lumbar spine. These muscles don’t get a good workout in most people’s normal day. Consumer Reports reported that in retrospect, 58% of people with back pain wished they had done more back strengthening exercises. There are many simple exercises that can be performed in 20 to 30 minutes as part of a daily routine.
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Eating with Your Spine in Mind Neel Anand, MD
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Jesus is the Bread of Life so those who partake of this Bread will live forever more. Bread is important part of a basic meal to socialise, emotional significance beyond in nutrition. It has essential role in Christianity as symbol of the body of Christ broken to save us. Other religious rituals in secular culture feature bread prominently. Jesus taught us to pray to God to supply our nourishment daily as in Exodus. Prayer reflects in a language of Christian, “Give us this day our daily bread. Often etymology of words says those who eat share bread with you are part of the family of Kingdom of God in communion in the Eucharist of Church. Bread is a staple food prepared from a dough of flour, fat, water etc is baked, steamed or boiled. In recorded history bread is popular around the world and oldest foods since dawn of agriculture. Many shapes, sizes, tastes exist, colour, combinations, proportioned by types of flour plus other ingredients. Different traditional recipes show various modes of preparation of bread. The varieties of types, shapes, sizes, textures of breads found in various regions. Bread may be leavened by different processes ranging using natural microbes in a sour dough recipe to high-pressure aeration method preparations for baking industrially. Some bread products are unleavened to mark Passover or feasts commanded. To escape Egypt prefered than a traditional bread for religious reasons. Yeast leaven activates bread God wanted pure bread. Other breads use ingredients, fruits and nuts and fats. Commercial bread baked in factories are enhanced by nutritional conditioners improves flavours, texture, colour, shelf life, ease of manufacturing. Depending on the local custom and time convenience, bread is served in various forms with any meal. Eaten as snacks or ingredients in a bread pudding, crumbs coats food, culinary preparations, fried prevents sticking, blends components of bread pudding, stuffing, fills cavities to retain juices dripping away in cooking.God gives us His daily bread living, and Jewish festival of Passover, unleavened bread eaten commemorates flight from slavery in Egypt. Israelites did not have time for bread to rise so ate unleavened bread matzoh. In a Christian Eucharist bread represents body of Christ eaten as sacrament. Specific bread compositions vary in Church denomination sharing a bread to remember Jesus. The Eucharist stems from descriptions depicting a last Supper. Scripture on Eucharist Synoptic Gospels present Last Supper as Passover meal. Jesus used a passover bread at His last supper, unleavened. Gospel of John, says the last supper occurred day before Passover suggests bread if its leavened. Disagreement of Council of Florence of the Catholic church agreed “the body of Christ is confected in unleavened and leavened wheat bread so priests should confect body of Christ in both. ”Jesus teaches us to pray God will give us daily bread in Matthew 6:9-13. Jesus told His disciples to pray for bread from God to supply their needs to feed them. We are taught to depend on God, Jehovah Jireh to supply all our needs. It gives credit to God as our source daily as owner of grains. Our daily bread τὸν ἄρτον ἡμῶν τὸν ἐπιούσιον δὸς ἡμῖν σήμερον begins with recognition of God as our Father. Submitting to God as our absolute creator in heaven pleased to give us the good things as His Children. Hallowing God’s Name is accepting His will on earth as it is in heaven. To give God thanks adoration, honour, glory for supplying our needs when we petition for personal needs. Jesus says we are to pray, “Give us this day our daily bread,” He’s talking about more than just bread.Spirtually God predestined us to receive Divine dining to nourish our souls. This take faith to a whole new level when my little brother at 4 years old insisted on eating bread cut out as Cross. It did not matter the variety of bread eaten it had to be precisely, meticulously designed in shape of the Cross. The amazing thing is we all wondered how he understood the symbolic meaning of Jesus Cross young. He didn’t accept leftover pieces cut out in the process is bonus for chosen bread cutter of the day to design a Cross bread for him. Bread benefits gained in eating, flour and bread in a government survey says its source of starch provides fibre. Spiritually, the bread of life equips us to be sustained by God to endure with our Saviour Christ Jesus. His death on the Calvary Cross to redeem from sin and death represents His broken body of the ripped veil in Temple to Holy of Holies.The Bible tells us this is the first prayer for earthly food. GIVE US THIS DAY OUR DAILY BREAD’S deeper spiritual meaning shows the way God feeds His people. So teaches importance of understanding its by prayer. God forgives us as we forgive others. God leads us not into temptation but delivers us from evil in Jesus name eternally. God’s abundantly supplied to us our bread but must not live by bread alone but by words proceeding from out of Mouth of God. Bread helps to nourish life but at best values God’s provisions to remind mankind to acknowledge and worship God as source of grain or food. The Worshipful company of bakers give credit for grain. People create toaster of Jesus makeing it possible for Jesus to be on Toast with. The Do It Yourself Toaster Christianity has been taken to new level given new meaning to eat daily bread of life. Image of Jesus whole foods, blessed and loved by God as they look at face of Jesus imprinted on the bread. A woman believes Jesus is always watching over her. Sees Him at vantage point heavenly face visible in burned cheese, melted on top of a piece of bread. God’s Love is so great the Bible tells us to love Him with all our heart, mind, soul and love our neighbour as ourselves as God loves us.
Creating various shapes is an excellent idea for parties or picnics to share the love of Jesus. Jesus is the bread for the world today so nurtures the mind, soul and spirit. The love of God is shed abroad in our hearts so as part of the body of Christ so Christ lives in us in God and in Christ we live and move and have our being. What an excellent idea for parties or picnics to share the love of Jesus. And Jesus the bread of life for the world nurtures, mind, soul and spirit. The love of God is shed abroad in our hearts in the body of Christ. Christ lives in us so God in Christ we live and move and have our being. This love of God is expressed in bread baked love shape. So Jesus is the bread for the world.Easter a busy time for the face of Christ appearing on iron, on bruises, on a car window, naan bread in curry two slices of wholemeal diet bread. Discovered the face of Jesus beautifully presented to me on one of the bread toasted. The face of Jesus appears in slice of toast keeps the slice in a plastic bag to protect it. Among other appearances are the cheese pizzas resembling face of Christ at Posh Pizza’s in Brisbane, Australia by New Zealander who found Christ in toasted pita bread.Confidence in God makes you smile in the face of adversity. Bread smile shapes like this appear in other foods. Bread if eaten in moderation a healthy balanced diet good for the body. Eating bread of life is supernatural soul food has a great impact on spiritual health. Eating bread as normal wholesome meal or Eucharist communion bread is endorsed by God. God Loves the world so He gave Jesus as the bread of life to save and feed us soul food to nourish our lives. So enjoy your quality family time meals fed by Lord Jesus from unique breads baked from heaven’s best scratch bakery hand made bread, pastry, cake, pies or baked goods. God gives power to get wealth from His Natural resources provided so to eat is a gift of God. Thousands of years of Godly wisdom bakes, techniques used in art of baking steeped in tradition. Menus from bread list items produced by people or created by God. Heavenly bread is very delicious so God says taste and see that the Lord is good enjoy decent selections.
The Bible says we are a chosen generation, a peculiar people, a royal priesthood and joint heirs with Christ Jesus. God celebrates His Highly beloved people. So there shall be showers of blessings for this is the Promise of God,. There shall be season’s refreshing, sent from the Saviour above. Showers of blessings, showers of blessings we need. Mercy drops on us are falling but for God’s Showers we plead. We trust God to supply all our needs by His Riches in Glory by Christ Jesus from heaven. God Faithfully is Pleased to Give all His Children good and perfect gifts in Jesus Name using people to bless.
Join to support a heavily pregnant mother who will deliver soon by November, 30th 2015. She grew up in care and has no biological family support. She has been through a lot but picked herself up by the Grace of God now as newly born again baby Christian. Be encouraged to help her to continue growing in the Lord to rebuild her life in Jesus Name.Our personal goal is get as many people to organise this private surprise baby shower party for her as soon as possible. She has no idea about this baby shower party idea I am planning for her.
I will also like to take this opportunity in advance to humbly request some items she needs for the baby and herself. I would like particularly to ask for sponsors on her behalf so that we can organise and give her respite rest to receive a safe place for her to be pampered, given a suitable massage, serenaded, given healthy treats to enjoy a good time before giving birth. Please sponsor to help with make over to help regain confidence due to pain and suffering. Whoever helps will have their names mentioned during party to promote their company or business for any baby items donated to her.
She needs help to make her feel good about herself and feel loved. She needs food and healthy drinks without alcohol for the guests with party favours. She has her personal tastes and colours so if possible she will gently prefer dresses for the baby girl, pink, peach, skirts, tights, no trousers please. Especially, the clothes for baby’s next age sizes beyond zero-3 months would be best preferred due to growth spurt size of the baby. This baby is quite tall and big so needs bigger sizes to help her be mothered as anyone who has a child knows.This is the time for her to get help with extra washing powder, food, recovery time after birth to become strong enough to raise her baby. My prayer is to surprise her by helping through the kind generous support of those interested in giving to help her. Girl’s celebrated encourage acceptance by those who feel that girls are less valuable than boys. Some cultures treat girls as not of high value or priceless gift of Godly asset to bless and honour the family.Any gifts parcels or large gifts bought on her behalf will be stored and documented then handed to her during the baby showers party. Your support is appreciated so gifts will be displayed clearly labelled as coming from you if you choose to do so. She needs urgent help to feel reassured all is well. She is getting through emotional triggers as baby girl reminds her of childhood pain and problems. Yet worries about deep concerns of help with raising baby.We want to surprise her as much as possible to make it fun for her. She suffers a lot of health issues during this pregnancy and has put up with more stress than necessary. So the purpose is to help lift up her spirit and help her feel better during birth. She needs urgent help to feel reassured that all is well. She is getting through many emotional triggers because the baby girl makes her worry deeply of concerned needs in raising her baby.
We will respect your privacy if you want to remain anonymous. Also, please help give, provide a good and memorable shower to bring joy to her and her baby. It will cheer her to overcome pre/post partum stress depression isolation after birth as she lost an excellent job so struggling to survive. So show human heartedness by the love of God to surely supplies needs in Jesus Name. We appreciate and thank you abundantly for supporting those in need through no fault of their own. The Bible says older believers build up younger ones by example in faith.
If you can, please help organise the party without letting her know in advance. We will ask her friends to find out from her discreetly her interests then surprise her with the party itself. No gift is too small or too large. so please consider what you can donate to help her. Join to celebrate life to bring hope to let her know the world is still a lovely place despite adversity. Priority needs include wardrobe for baby girl, storage for baby’s items, push chair, cot, baby travel chair, blankets, paints foe decorating bedroom, winter clothes, baby warmers, feeding bottles, breast pumps, blankets, bedsheets, etc. God says let us do good to others especially those in the household of God. It is necessary to get food donated to help feed family as zero hour job brings no income despite excellent qualifications. In addition, this brings friends and neighbours together to accomplish Godly goals of empathy and love.
If you interested in helping us with this event please let us know in time as the best time suitable for the party is getting close before her due date. Please donate directly or email what specifically you can do to help make this dream come true. Please send donations to help organise to surprise her by preparing in advance before hand. The word of God says which of you say you love people but leave them to starve in their time of need, Jesus said as you feed, quench thirst or provide the needs of the least in society you give to Jesus and lend to God.We thank all those who care enough to express active love in action to help others in times like these. Thank you so much as your help is much appreciated. God abundantly bless you and reward you. We love you. We will let you know how things unfold, the reality and achievement of this baby shower dreams and update you of the birth and baby news as soon as it happens in due course. We trust God by the leading of the Holy Spirit to guide each person to donate as they so wish.
Thank you so much in advance for your help. We hope to help women deal with difficult moment in their lives to encourage them to see themselves as God’s co-creator. We will prepare food for invited guest healthy beverages, deserts fruits. We need £500.00 for this event for meals, presents, gifts to educate invited young women on practical birth needs. This helps demonstrate the love of God to a lot of isolated people struggling to keep maintain families in difficult times.Please help women suffering years of post natal depression. If not addressed early enough for prevention intervention it ruins the whole family. It will heal miserable emotional wounds, unbearable loss compounded by isolation stress of raising children. Please help bless her life to enjoy fun despite circumstances. Thank God for His abundant supernatural provisions in Jesus Name. God blessed this sister in Christ with many gifts to her and baby from guests. Praise, thanks, Glory be to God for answer to prayer as event was successfully organised to surprise and bless the family in Jesus Name and celebrate with friends, colleagues and family.
This is really a true story confirming the need to say ‘yes’ to Jesus. Many have done that, but when saying ‘yes’ to Jesus, we must say at the same time ‘no’ to sin. Otherwise, that ‘yes’ to Jesus is invalid. We cannot walk in two directions at the same time. If we do, we fool ourselves. That would be very terrible, like that pastor that was witnessed there. Say ‘yes’ to Jesus from the bottom of your heart and turn around from unrighteousness. Repent of your sins and receive forgiveness by the blood of Jesus Christ Then walk the path of righteousness. Whosoever calls upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.
Let’s pray together right now. Pray ‘Dear Lord Jesus, I say ‘yes’ to you and ‘no’ to sin. Forgive me of my sins. Wash me with your precious blood. Come into my heart, Lord Jesus. In Jesus name, amen.’ He said he saw no fire but saw people cannibalizing themselves. Every time they had done it, the flesh seemed to jump back to the same places and then the torment started again. He said it was so horrible. He came back and said, ‘Heaven is real, hell is real so become serious with God. You need to be saved by the blood of Jesus Christ and live a holy life.’ An angel took him to show him Paradise. He showed him the mansions that are waiting for the saints. And he showed him hell. He saw the people in hell. He said one shouted to him, ‘I was a pastor and I stole money. Help me to return the money.’ He said it was so frightening to him that the angel turned to him and said, ‘The prayer of the rich man in Luke 16 will now be fulfilled, and you will be sent back to earth as a last warning to this generation.’ ROBERTSON: For those who are not aware of that, in Luke 16 the rich man lifted up his eyes in torment and said, ‘I have a number of brothers. Let me go back and warn them.’ Father Abraham said, ‘No, they have Moses and the prophets. If they won’t believe them, they will not believe the one who rose from death. Now, God granted in this last day, prayer of rich man in Luke 16 to come back. The prayer of the rich man in Luke 16 is fulfilled as a last warning to this generation on earth to take God more seriously.’
BONNKE: He came back alive so people who see this video of Pastor Daniel Ekechukwu [Raised from the Dead] are getting saved by the thousands. I hear reports from across the world. It is such a powerful tool of evangelism and we are absolutely delighted. I wish I could have produced Pastor Daniel here today. His wife Mrs Ekechukwu Nneka, was one with a promise from God that women receive back the dead by resurrection. She stood firmly by faith on the word of God, believed so received her miracle in Jesus Name. She said, ‘My husband will come back, and I have heard Reinhard Bonnke is in Onitsha this Sunday I will bring him there. She brought him there. I was preaching and I knew nothing about it. Suddenly, the man started to breathe. His story is awesome and what he was shown while he was in eternity. All accused themselves. They didn’t blame anyone else. He said that they didn’t see the angel next to him. They only saw him and were calling for help. The angel turned around and said that Daniel would be connected to me and that through me this testimony would be spread across the whole world. Suddenly Daniel gasped for air in the church. He was there in the basement while I was preaching upstairs, ‘In the name of Jesus!’ It is awesome. I mean that story has covered Nigeria, Africa, and the world. He saw the saints worshipping. He said it was so wonderful he wanted to enter that place. My question to him was ‘Did you see Jesus?’ He said there was a white, bright light and all of those saints were worshiping and looking in that direction. He said, ‘I shaded my eyes, but my eyes could not penetrate it.’ Then he was taken to the mansions. He tried to describe the beauty of those mansions. He said, ‘Like, ‘My own television team that made that video said they could not sleep for three nights and everybody brought their lives up to standard, the standard of the Word of God. It brought a lot of heart searching.He was at my crusade. It was fantastic. I had him in Vienna. At the same time, while I had my meetings there, there was an esoteric convention there. When they heard that someone had come back from the dead, they love to hear the voices from the dead, so they said, ‘Can you not address us?’ He went to speak to them, preached, and made an altar call so 50 witches got saved. Glory to God for God is the same yesterday, today and forever.
What is worse than an emotional woman? An emotional man. And having to deal with an emotional woman is already a hard enough task. How can you recognize an emotional man? Here goes five signs, among many others:
- On the first or second date, he will already tell you some sad story about his childhood. Emotional men love to play the victim. That is why he will quickly share everything he’s been through, so you will see him as “poor little guy.”
- You cell phone will ring, vibrate, flicker and beep every 15 seconds. Yes, it is him again. At times, just to tell you how he misses you since you left for work 10 minutes ago. At other times, to argue because you did not reply to the 358 messages he sent you before noon. (Emotional men, for some reason, are avid keyboard lovers.)
- He gets into a bad mood faster than you can read this sentence. From out of nowhere. Everything was fine and then, suddenly it wasn’t. For no apparent reason. You even feel like looking into his eyes and saying, “I cast you out from this body!” You don’t understand what’s going on and you ask yourself, “What have I done this time?” Don’t worry, you haven’t done a thing. He is probably going through male PMS.
- It is always your fault. Always. He lied, but it was because you would argue with him if he had told you the truth. He cheated, but it was because you rejected him first. He spent all the money, but only because he was so stressed out and really needed that new smartphone (to allow him to text you with double speed). If you had been calmer, more loving, friendlier, more understanding, and richer, he would not have acted like that. After all, “I love you very much” he will make sure to remind you of that.
- His speeches make you think you married Aristotle. When an emotional man is truly inspired he can go for hours on end philosophizing, lecturing, complaining about everything from the evils of humanity to the colour of your nail polish and woe is you if he notices you are not paying attention. Just because of that you get extra 2 hour earful because he is rude, impatient and unwilling to accept that you cannot bend over backwards to meet his every whim. So needs to grow up, learn to mature and perhaps combat his sense of entitlement to respect and value you more.
If you are an emotional man, you must acknowledge the disadvantages of being that way and how hard it makes having to deal with you. I am not saying that there is no positive aspects to that, nor that you are a bad person. I am only pointing out that there are people around who observe you and relate with you somehow. If you recognize where you are forcing it, you’re up to a good start.
Leaving the humour aside, all these signs are true, especially if more than one is present. Here, I am discussing more about the problem than the solution. That is because every solution starts with the recognition that there is a problem. If you are a woman in a relationship with an emotional man, you must also acknowledge the problem in order to figure out what you are going to do about it. If you’re not married yet, the first and safest tip is: Get out while you still can! If you are single and you are wondering if you should date a man like that, why on Earth would you bring that upon yourself?
Now, if you are married to one, fast and pray, dear friend. Any other tip that I may find out, I promise I’ll let you know. The man is the head of the home, so if insecure and emotionally unhealthy attention seeking, can he really lead the family? We all need to express emotions appropriately so this article is talking about self-confidence and emotional maturity.
Reblogged Renato Cardoso
Call for help to reclaim joy of parenthood hood because focus and full attention shifts imperatively from the couple to the new infant at the centre of the family. This means guests are calling, family and friends visiting with presents, church leaders, loved ones, friends, colleagues, etc. Within these few days the family endures stress of sleepless nights despite pressure to go to work regardless. Soon, heaps of laundry pile up unwashed laundry not ironed, the house no longer pristine like a show room, home not cleaned, food not made properly any more. With constant crying of the baby or babies, and siblings tagging at parents skirts and trousers for affection, hugs, nappy changes, meals and playing with them. The home becomes so chaotic to see the little ones running riot as the parents blame and resent each other for incompetence and inefficiency. The couple let themselves get into rows due to the tensions and the sometimes the overwhelmed mother lets her looks and shape slide down hill. This is because the last on her mind is her appearance. When this happens she may be busy feeding baby on call as baby demands and expressing milk for help in the night to get a few hours sleep. The woman’s delightful looks may go out the window as she is barely able to contain milk flow soaking constantly her garments. Join a mother’s or father’s toddler group when a new baby is born.Marriage changes a woman’s career and she ends up with children more of as extra baggage so has more to lose. Therefore there is no need to rush into marriage as women now live longer so prepare for the future first by establishing a career. Life is not a competition even if all your mates already have children and you feel left out. Many secretly wish they could undo their lives and do things better. So the couple may be in shock with regard to the intense hectic demands they find themselves in. Seemingly controlled by small children now wonder how to make the marriage or the family last. Even at the worst times remember there are people who cannot have children and see how blessed one is to have children. At each stage, even though there are many challenges, remind yourselves that children are blessings from God. Family life is a dynamic journey of one great big adventure so embrace with thankfulness to God. The pressure continues to mount if they do not recognise need to call for help without guilty feelings of failure. The couple cannot live as if still single before having children. Life changes drastically with child care, cooking, cleaning, laundry not solely woman’s job. Single life partying is over without friends or work colleagues to talk to at home all day long with infant totally dependent on you.No more addiction to interactive computer games competitions on-line. You cannot expect the child to conform to your previous single lifestyle. By saying I do, it means adiós to selfishness, sacrifice and taking on extra responsibility for their lives. You do not have a child to make you happy because your life in unfilled. Real hands on child raising is intense responsibility to provide for yourself and your family. Transitions into a father or mother coupled with hormones imbalances affects mood swings. So do not expect to recover after birth as if you are still the single childless person you use to be. Do frustrate yourself for inability to keep on top of life as before having children. Having family brings drastic physical, emotional, spiritual, financial, career changes affecting the couple. Things get worse with underlying financial issues so both parents may suffer paternal and maternal post partum depression affecting the children’s development and marital relationship. Some new mothers are suffering in silence from postnatal depression with many not speaking up for fear of having their children taken away. A responsible single man maintains own home and does chores before marriage yet works full – time. Therefore, it is not exclusive job of his wife to be expected to take over looking after the husband. Even if his mother perhaps left of nannying him as an adult son, grown man encouraged totally to be dependent on mother. He is now a father with dependent children needing his input so cannot think marriage is all about his needs only.He must understand the true meaning of love to give and receive in the relationship. In addition, an emotional man expects the woman to fulfil all his needs, care alone for his children, run the home perfectly and ensure the home remains a show room 24/7. The children are not allowed to feel at home to enjoy the treated as property to remain in perfect condition in case of selling it. So life in the home is constantly like walking on egg shells. One has to thread carefully not to cause him to explode. In such tense atmosphere the man is permanently angry, hard to please, perhaps abuses wife and children physically. If so, do not be wrapped in red tape getting caught up in a problem or trouble needing rescue refusing to be freed from tangled mess.On the other hand, despite having children some immature women demand that constantly remain the centre of attention. Therefore they expect the husband to run after them 24/7 and be thankful they agreed to settle down with him. So demand gratitude and appreciation for marrying such a person like herself. She expects to remain queen as the centre of the universe in the relationship insisting the man does all the chores while she is always on the phone, face book, twitter, on-line talking to her friends and followers or shopping on-line.
Although, she may or not work, she lives as if she is still single, seeking to remain independent and requiring man to take on jobs she feels beneath her status. The man unaware endorses such abusive patterns of trophy wife behaviour, carries on dutifully to the annoyance of friends and family. He does all the shopping, cleaning, cooking, caring for children and works full-time. His greatest fear is asking for support or submission from her means divorce. So husband soldiers doggedly for the sake of his children. She talks to him anyhow worse than she would talk to even their children. She is possessive of him so deprives him of friends and family because without him she claims she cannot function. She runs down family budget on expensive make up, beauty products, designer clothes, luxury bags and shoes but the rent, mortgage, family needs are not first met. She lives in own bubble and strongly believes she is perfect so no one dare challenge her. Despite luxurious surroundings, life is chaotic and nobody in the premises seems happy. To the outside world and the church they are the perfect couple, yet underneath lurks pain and hurts. Eventually, the family calls for help with regard to redressing issues.
After observing each person’s role in the home, the picture becomes clearer. Then the process begins to work together to resolve underlying issues. A couple’s personalities, backgrounds, attitudes to life, perceived roles of men and women in marriage surface in therapy sessions. As a family unit, one has to recreate new hybrid version of what is best for family. Whatever may have worked in the past in your own childhood may not always be best for your adult home or new family. Compromise is necessary and essential because verbal communication accounts for only 10% of life. This means, things said or promised verbally is not enough to consolidate relationship to run family effectively. Call for help to understand marriage commitment, impact of raising children on love feelings, intimacy, personal interests, romance, overcoming hardships together, enduring difficulties, sacrifices. Children need therefore merely buying expensive toys alone will not do the job. Children need stimulation and interaction from birth throughout childhood. Shoving them in front of TV, computer games, will not solve problem. Instead they will experience stunted emotional growth in a bubble. Life is better when children learn from early years from parent’s practical life skills. Children kept for hours alone in bedrooms with gadgets lack social skills. So it important to invest precious time into upbringing to talk to the children play with them, roll on the floor with them, play football, handball, tennis, basketball, music or write songs with them. Activities must not focus on perfection to follow a particular style, just enjoy family times. The best form of communication is not through 10% words but 90% actions of love is doing little things that does not cost money. Giving consistently affection, love, hugs, smiles, appreciation, gratitude, respect, unique card made by you, encouraging supportive good attitude, cooking, caring for each other and children, cleaning home, garbage, constitute real true love.
The ultimate goal is to bond with them early in positive playful but firm manner. Having children does not mean the end of a parent’s world. Children enrich your lives by giving love unconditionally to draw the best out of you to be more patient, tolerant, forgiving, kind and generous. Do not be selfish and so treat them as a nuisance that robs your personal freedom and personal life. Remember you chose to marry, to have children or engage in acts that result naturally in children according to God’s plan. So do not blame, accuse or punish them for ruining your life. Do not resent them for turning your world upside down because you did it to yourself. The good news is children grow up faster than you expect. Sooner than later they leave you as stewards entrusted by God for a season. You can always reconstruct your life in a new dimension because life is dynamic. It is never too late to learn, train, do new things, achieve personal goals put on hold for your children’s sake. Do not be jealous, vengeful, bitter, resentful of innocent joy and laughter of your children. Do not be ashamed to get help if you feel too stressed, sad, isolated, harbouring dark thoughts, about to cross dangerous lines of hurting your children to ‘solve’ family problems. Do not let pride, ego, anger damage relationship to destroy yourself and family. Asking for help is the right thing to do to save lives so it is not weakness. You face consequences for life if deprived children of loving parents. Above all, you are accountable to God for His children entrusted to you to love and treat well.
As Mentor of the year, I get invited into certain delicate situations which require tact and gently guiding the family to apply wisdom in solving problems to overcome challenges. I joined a planned walkathon as part of family time away to interact and involve all to observe and lend a helping hand if necessary. Just a few minutes into the journey, Johnny, not his real name latched onto me and showed me a tiny scratch on his hands he made a big fuss about. I asked his mother what caused scratch which turned out to be from his own doing from falling down recklessly in one of his tantrum moments. Johnny was angry at his mother for telling me about attention seeking careless moments getting out of control. Consequently, Johnny stormed off so refused to continue with walkathon bonding experience after barely a mile. Later, we took a well deserved lunch break in a family friend’s home along the way. After lunch we had time to relax to enjoy me time and mother delved deeper into Johnny actions and behaviour. Mother revealed, soon after Johnny’s birth during a one year-long relationship, ‘Abi’ the mother was pregnant again with another child. So pressure mounted to care for Johnny and pregnant mother. So the grandparents stepped in to dote on Johnny and give him all the attention he needed. This eased the situation and became a win win situation for a season. After the birth of Johnny’s sibling ‘Sarah’ things continued to get worse with unresolved complicated issues of caring for two small children. Whenever Johnny came home after spending weekends and holidays away, he was restless so did not fit in. Johnny felt detached, isolated and treated by the grandparents as if real parents. The parents blamed the grand parents for indulging and babying him turning him into a brat by doting too much on him as their first grandchild. Instead of appreciating the help given by grandparents, Johnny was made to feel it was his fault the family did not get along. Eventually, unfortunately the grandparents passed away. Due to lack of bonding attachment to parents, Johnny felt lost without beloved grandparent’s input to play with cousin. School reports got worse with behavioural issues and lack of focus in the classroom. Johnny was disruptive at times affecting other children who copied him.
Things spiralled out of control with threats of permanent exclusion from school despite pastoral care support within school. This is when family got in touch through similar families I worked with in the past who recommended they get in touch. So journey continued with fun but with mixed feelings from Johnny’s mother concerned about Johnny’s lack of participation. We were reassured Johnny was alright by a family friend who offered to look after him. Father was on the journey but busy preoccupied helping siblings after a hard day’s work to let mother talk to me first about turn of events in the family. So after exploring deeper conversations, it was recognised by mother that Johnny was grieving loss of own family by displaced syndrome feelings replaced by siblings. Mother’s attitude was Johnny had his turn and full attention after birth so it was time for siblings to be given the exact same full attention he exclusively enjoyed with support of grand parents previously. This is when I gently pointed out responsibilities increased minus support of grandparents so they had to share time with siblings without insisting on repeating exact previous moments from the past.
One can still love the siblings and help them learn to have consideration for others in the family. Secondly, Johnny grieved silently without dealing with the grandparent’s loss appropriately. Johnny internalized his grief and showed displacement syndrome caused by exclusive attention on his siblings. On return from the walkathon, I spoke to Johnny’s father to get his point of view on the matters at hand. He loves Johnny yet did not verbally express the love openly as showered on siblings. He felt he was compelled to become more involved after grandparents were unavailable. In the past he thought domestic matters were women’s roles so he focussed more on providing for the family. However, since he and his wife had the children too quickly in succession, she lost her job so they had less income with more mouths to feed, mortgage to pay, loans, credit card bills, 2 cars, medical insurance etc. so the list seems endless. Atmosphere in the home was tense with unpleasant arguments, shouting fights and children crying all day long. If not content, unhappy, unable to express true feelings to stop implode of health symptoms, low immunity, to not eat properly if unwell or screaming in frustration help children stay calm by giving them extra attention.
Meanwhile, ‘Peter,’ Johnny’s father was preoccupied with the family’s financial matters. In dealing with the family, he never had any personal interaction with Johnny except to discipline him when asked to do so. He felt responsible yet stressed by his inability to pay the on time so struggled within himself and though he let his family down. He felt overwhelmed and daunted by the bills by his inability to control the situation better. He was disappointed in himself for not taking time out carefully at the beginning to carefully plan better beforehand. He felt he run with his emotional feelings about love so had no idea the seriousness of life as a father. He felt he made it as he went along without input of family support he learnt to appreciate after it was too late. Overall, he is willing to make the necessary changes to maintain the family in better shape. Sometimes postpartum depression affects new mothers so husbands must help and not compare wife with his mother or call her lazy. Peter is doing well with his wife and the budget is on schedule for payments plus disciplined financial habits. So joined new role in training children, 1-2-1 interactive activities with Johnny plus encourages children bonding.
Abi realised how she was in denial of the real situation so we prepared together a simple easy to follow plan to have fun but remain firm in the process. Children are really easy to deal with if you know how and willing to explore the child in you more. With reward points, good positive carrot method of raising children, discipline, correcting appropriately. The couple soon realised they inadvertently contributed to Johnny’s actions and behaviour. After, a few days of working together as a team, Johnny came aboard to join the family to feel valued and loved. It was tough at first to change the situation around as old habits die hard. However, by persistence resilience, things turned out better with structure, routine, more love, fun and laughter. I spoke again to Johnny before and after appropriate intervention, altogether Johnny is flourishing and happy. He wrote his memory book to commemorate grandparents with pictures, released balloons. Johnny’s behaviour, reading skills improved grammatically dramatically. He enjoys school, his grades are great, plays tennis, piano, has friends, joy to know and fun to be with. His school ranks him among best children for with God all things are possible.