In Proverbs, a gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy man keeps a secret” (Proverbs 11:12-13). The Bible tells us that “a perverse man stirs up dissension, and a gossip separates close friends” (Proverbs 16:28). The high priest could not even show traditional signs of mourning, such as allowing his hair to become unkempt (uncovering his head) or tearing his garments, not even for his mother or father.“ Some people put others down to tear them apart to feel to give information about others to degrade others with insider knowledge. Proverbs 20:19 states the one who goes about revealing secrets is a slanderer so do not associate with gossip. Rumours, tale-bearing, back-biting are symptoms of gossip. James 3:1-12 in the Bible says the tongue must be tamed because every kind of beast and bird, reptile and sea creature can be tamed and has been tamed by mankind. An unruly tongue is evils and deadly as it damages the reputation of others to lift self up for power to suppress others. Gossips manipulate and set up wildfire lies through Chinese whispers. Christians need to learn to put a guard upon our mouths to speak with grace. The Bible says a perverse man stirs up dissension and gossip to separates close friends as seen here in Proverbs 16:28. A discreet, reliable and trustworthy person keeps a secret according to Proverbs 11:12-13. It is important to speak truth in love no matter how daunting it is to have good motives and a healthy attitudes in speech. As seditious, malicious gossip affects the reputation and prestige of others. James 4:7 says submit yourselves therefore to God and resist the devil and he will flee from you. The devil is the spirit behind character assassination so resist the urge to reveal issues concerning others. Self-control is required to overcome the potential temptation to condemn others especially those who hurt us. There is tendency to slander those who do agree with or refuse to conform to our way of thinking. It seems easier to portray them as evil to justify the pain of rejection by them. So set about on-line false rumours, face book, twitter lies, sabotage by creating obstacles against them to try to ruin their lives in revenge psychological attacks. Such psychological warfare uses power bases and destructive outlets to fabricate over-hyped stories to criticise to try to control them or shut them down.Others snoop on victims, complain and report them to authorities to try to harass the person to cause trouble to justify frustration and anger. A lot of people are bullied and ostracised by friends whose envy and jealousy cause intrusions and acts of harassment to mock, ridicule, threaten the life of the targeted person in extreme cases. So, those bored are looking for something to occupy themselves so put ideas into people’s heads to influence opinion about them. Insensitive people recruit and gag up against fre-nemies to bully them.Gossips manipulate and set up wildfire lies through Chinese whispers. The Bible says a perverse man stirs up dissension and gossip to separates close friends as seen here in Proverbs 16:28. People with low self-esteem lack confidence so shift attention from themselves by picking on others with harmful and hurtful information. They are concerned about accuracy want to spread the news as their duty to inform everyone about other people’s lives. The intention is to sensation by sharing intimate details sometimes unknown previously. Such people like to talk all the time so need something to talk about to entertain themselves. So idle talk about people’s private lives disapproves or has malicious contents to intimidate others.
Gossip sometimes is subtle or at times direct to show they are better than they actually are. So cast insinuations to spread gossip but present it as good intentions. Others think they have duty of care to tell everyone about the latest updates on other’s personal lives. The Bible requires stricter standard for believers than others. Especially, leaders, teachers of the Word of God in positions of power must not reveal confidential personal details of fellow believers. Those who teach will be judged strictly according James 3:1. Leaders have greater responsibility and wider circle of influence for good or for evil. So impact lives of those working with them or general population by their words and example. Take note, it is often the nosey ‘well meaning concerned’ moles around to fish for insider knowledge to ensure they are not left out. Many people feel the urge to be emotionally stimulated if their life is mundane. Such curtain twitcher’s reason for gossip is need for constant news. Paul said, all things are permissible but not all are helpful: “All things are legitimate, free to do as one pleases but not all things are helpful, profitable or wholesome. The habit of gossiping busybodies means they say things they are not supposed to say in 1 Timothy 5:12-13. Those who often tend to spend a lot of time in each other’s homes or work closely together hear and observe situations which can be distorted. Especially when like Chinese whispers repeated over and over the first message never ends up accurately after transmission.Gossips are spin doctors who run to and fro between people fishing out juicy information. They then add their version to put their own take on the storyline to make it more vivid.
Those who guard their tongues keep themselves from calamity says Proverbs 21:23. Gossips do not remember what they said when although those hurt remember the pain caused by them. Matthew 15:11 It is not what goes into the mouth that defiles a person, but what comes out of the mouth; this defiles a person.” Proverbs 18:21-22 says life and death are in the power of the tongue and those who love to indulge in it shall eat its fruit of their choice. 20 A person’s stomach shall be satisfied with the fruit of his mouth; so with the increase of his lips shall their stomach be satisfied. Matthew 12:36 says, on the day of judgement people will give account for every careless word they speak. Proverbs 17:27 Whoever restrains his words has knowledge, and he who has a cool spirit is a man of understanding. Colossians 3:8 But now you must put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscene talk from your mouth. Psalm 141:3 Set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth; keep watch over the door of my lips. Proverbs 21:23 Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble. Proverbs 15:1 A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Ephesians 4:29 Let no corrupt talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as befits the occasion to give grace to those who hear it. Matthew 12:37 For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned. Proverbs 16:24 Gracious words are like honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body. 2 Timothy 3:16 All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness,
Isaiah 55:11 So shall my word be that goes out from my mouth; it shall not return to me empty, but it shall accomplish that which I purpose, and shall succeed in the thing for which I sent it. Proverbs 15:4 A gentle tongue is a tree of life, but perverseness in it breaks the spirit. Proverbs 18:20 From the fruit of a man’s mouth his stomach is satisfied; he is satisfied by the yield of his lips.1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. Joshua 1:8 This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success. 1 Timothy 6:12 Fight the good fight of the faith. Take hold of eternal life you were called to make good confession in the presence of many witnesses. James 3:8 But no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. 1 Corinthians 2:13 we impart this in words not taught by human wisdom but taught by the Spirit of God interpreting spiritual truths to those who are spiritual. Proverbs 10:19 When words are too many it results in sin transgression but whoever restrains his lips is wise and prudent. John 16:13 When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all the truth for he will not speak on his own authority but whatever he hears he will speak and he will declare to you the things that are to come. Revelation 22:19 And if anyone takes away from the words of the book of this prophecy, God will take away his share in the tree of life and in the holy city, which are described in this book. In James 1:26 If anyone thinks he is religious and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his heart, this person’s faith is worthless.
In 1 Peter 1:25 the word of the Lord remains forever.” And this word is the good news to be preached to all in the world. 2 Timothy 2:15 So do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a worker who has no need to be ashamed, rightly handling the word of truth. Hebrews 4:12 For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart. Revelation 22:7 “And behold, I am coming soon. Blessed is the one who keeps the words of the prophecy of this book.” 1 John 4:2-3 By this you know the Spirit of God: every spirit that confesses that Jesus Christ has come in the flesh is from God, and every spirit that does not confess Jesus is not from God. This is the spirit of the anti Christ, which you heard was coming and now is in the world already. The truth is Christian believers in Yeshua, we are His ambassadors, royal family, and priests, we represent Him; John 1:1 in the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. Therefore, each of us are held to a high standard of morality when interacting with the world and each other. Idle minds and hands God cautions against so not to allow them to enter our lives so avoid a man or woman who talks too much according to Proverbs 20:19. God requires high standard to spread the Gospel message all over the world. So the believer’s tongue is to gossip Christ to be busy sharing the Christian message globally. Christians need to learn to put a guard upon our mouths to speak with grace. Leaders are looked up to by others so those who teach God’s Word are to live an exemplary life. Servants of God are called to live by stricter standard. All things are not constructive to enhance character or edify spiritual life in 1 Corinthians 10:23. The golden rule is put oneself in the shoes of the victim of gossip to feel how they feel to empathise with them. Psalm 19:14 says let the words of my mouth and meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight O Lord, my rock and redeemer.
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