Mourn with those who mourn in Romans 12:15. To some death seems like a DEAD END. People express mourning in many forms such as deep lamentation by venting out pain in agony, crying, weeping, screaming, wailing, shrieking cries of pain and feeling as if one will literally die too. To others it is silence, shock, horror, incredulous disbelief of Oh no, not again. Jesus encourages Body of Christ to comfort those who mourn to support to join mourning and grieving process as long as possible. This usually starts with large groups of mourners in shock of the news in disbelief. People support in the peak moments up to internment and memorial then treacle down to occasional visits and fizzles out completely. Everyone disappears completely back to business as usual. That is the moment real grief anger, rage pressure may set in. Treasured precious memories are held onto: photos, pictures, voice mail recordings, face book, twitter, memories, memorabilia, scent or anything that serves as minder of departed. For others, it hurts too much to look or be reminded so may do the opposite to clear away reminders of painful memories. Grief is unpredictable so everyone grieves differently.
There is no right or wrong way of personal grief. One cannot look at another person mourning their loss to condemn them for not following any particular method or standard of familiar patterns of grief. Sad emotions associated with death cause shock intense pain, anger, hurt, grief, loss of companionship and intimacy. Forced separation means death is negative emotion that inflicts emotional wounds on families. Death snatches the most treasured belonging of each other. While some express bereavement externally, others weep in silence, or quiet in subdued mood, implode or withdraw. Often there is too much shock experienced to express themselves verbally or reveal true feelings and emotions publicly. To some not saying goodbye means lack of closure and unfinished business. If only one can replace negative feelings of emotions of pain resulting in guilty feelings. Some literally faint and collapse on hearing the news of death. Others express rage and wrath and vent their anger on anyone around. Some may numb the pain with alcohol or substances to contain the pain. Everyone is different when mourning, so death is a time that confronts all through reality check to re-evaluate, re-assess meaning and purpose of life. It forces debates on mortality and wonder the exact location where the deceased is in time.
When a spouse, a family member or a close friend passes away the shock of untimely death causes deep reflection and put death in close proximity context for comfort. Therefore triggers bottled up feelings of hidden pain that explodes. Some in denial strongly believe loved ones asleep in the grave so can still hear them and communicate with them. Whichever method any person chooses preferably is up to them in that moment. So join in to support and help with whichever means practical and financial to help ease the pain. However, there is good news in helping people deal with the aftermath of death and loss. Paul said, to the Body of Christ in mourning, we do not want you to be uninformed, brothers and sisters, about those died, so that you may not grieve as others do who have no hope in 1 Thessalonians 4:18. Paul brings the reality of Christian perspective on mourning and grief. Paul reassures believers of GOOD GRIEVE with hope God’s gift of eternal life. It sounds an oxymoron to tell mourner in dazed state of pain, numbness and loss to grieve with hope. To encourage believers they will see their loved ones again because death is not the end of life. People do not possibly see any good that can possibly ever come out of death to replace their painful feelings so anger and bitterness may set in. They would rather have a magic wand to wish pain away to restore perfect joyful memories of moments shared with loved ones.This is the time Jesus carries believers through in His Foot Steps. During crucifixion of Jesus, He told mourners crying and following Him not to weep for Him but to weep for themselves and their children. Jesus knew His exceedingly intense grief agony pain was short-lived so He Will Resurrect. It good to weep and mourn yet essential to be realistic during trauma. So necessary to weep in intercessions in advance of behalf of self and loved ones to remain under God’s Radar at all times. God’s Mercy, Grace, Love Spot-Light to Shine Upon, reach and touch loved ones. Paul said, brethren we do not want you to be like uninformed brethren, ignorant about those who die to grieve like the rest without hope. God’s words concerning those who died shows do not grieve hopelessly and helplessly, as those who have no hope. Thessalonians understood and knew true meaning of death. When death touches personally, one feels cheated and robbed by God. Christians are not immune to effects of death so if Jesus tarried this generation will all die. Therefore encourage one another with 1 Thessalonians 4:18. Comfort relations and friends of that those who die in the Lord are grieved for in lawful and acceptable manner. Believers weep for loss but departed gain presence of God, no more sorrow or pain. For to be absent from the body is to be present with God. The Bible says in Ecclesiastics 3:1-15 of times and seasons brethren to weep, mourn or die. There is a time for everything and a season for every activity under the heavens. Time to be born and time to die, time to plant, time to reap that planted, time to break apart and rebuild 4 a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance 5 a time to scatter. Christians know death is a blessed new beginning not a DEAD END.
1 There is appointed time to all events under heaven. A time to give birth and a time to die;
2 A time to plant, and a time to uproot what is planted.
3 A time to kill, and a time to heal; A time to tear down, and a time to build up.
4 A time to weep, and a time to laugh; A time to mourn, and a time to dance.
5 A time to throw stones, time to gather stones, time to embrace, time to shun embracing.
6 A time to search, and a time to give up as lost; A time to keep, and a time to throw away.
7 A time to tear apart, and a time to sew together; A time to be silent, and a time to speak.
8 A time to love, and a time to hate; A time for war, and a time for peace.
9 What profit is there to the worker from that in which he toils? 10 I have seen the task which God has given the sons of men with which to occupy themselves.11 He has made everything appropriate in its time. He has also set eternity in their heart, yet so that man will not find out the work which God has done from the beginning even to the end. 12 I know that there is nothing better for them than to rejoice and to do good in one’s lifetime; 13 moreover, that every man who eats and drinks sees good in all his labour, it is the gift of God.14 I know that everything God does will remain forever; there is nothing to add to it and there is nothing to take from it, for God has so worked that men should fear Him. 15 That which is has been already, and that which will be has already been, for God seeks what has passed by.”
Both saved and unsaved members will be raised from the dead eventually to face God’s judgement. However, in the rapture only those who DIED IN CHRIST will resurrect to meet Christ in the air on the cloud of the sky INTO HEAVEN. Paul says, if we believe Jesus died and rose again God will bring Jesus to those who died in Jesus in 1 Thessalonians 4:18. The family will be reunited again through Jesus Christ, Ones Essential Master- Key Guarantor of Life to open door to ensure family saved enjoys eternal life. Numerous times grief continues to swell up again when the fresh realization dawns and memories of loved gone reopens wounds. So hold onto 1 Thessalonian 4:13-18 passage to find solace and 1 Corinthians 15, the Bible’s theological foundation for hope in Christ that death is not the end. For this we say to you by the word of the Lord, that we who are alive, and remain until the coming of the Lord, shall not precede those who have fallen asleep. For the Lord Himself will descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trumpet of God; and the dead in Christ shall rise first. We alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air and we shall always be with God in heaven so comfort one another with these words 1Thessalonians 4:13-18
Recalling my earliest memories was when my grandmother died. So I personally encountered death first at about 4 years old so I did understand death then. She knew she was dying when she died on a hot sunny afternoon. The day was lovely, beautiful, bright Sunshine as she told us, ”she was going to sleep in bed and that was it.” It still stands vividly in my mind till today but I wondered why she acted out of character to sleep during the broad day light when it was not siesta time. As resilient woman of God, she first taught me about Jesus Christ. Even if there is siesta, she was too busy, pre-occupied with running the family to take any power nap or sleep in the afternoon. So I was bemused not understanding death fully, I went into her room while she seemed ‘asleep’ to ask her to give me my favourite sweet she used to give me daily. I touched her and told her to wake up to give me some sweets endlessly. In those days families prepared for funeral with the deceased at home. Each day, while the adults were busy I often sat next to grandma asking for sweets. My lack of cortex brain as a child did not understand death what meant so thought she slept for so long. Eventually the adult managed to sort the preparations so laid her in state for final rites. Some cried, screamed, shouted, sang, She is going to heaven so they want to go with her. As a child, I thought if heaven is so sweet and she is going there why are they in tears instead of rejoicing with her. As usual, not fully understanding death, I went to a cousin totally heartbroken in tears asking her to give me my favourite toy she promised me. Such was my lack of comprehension of death, it now put things into perspective as an adult.
God says we must have childlike faith and equip believers to understand life and the after live. Especially during the end-time birth- pangs of life season even children must be taught and prepared to understand death in a meaningful language at their level of understanding. So do not to sweep good grieve under the carpet to grieve hopelessly and helplessly, this is not Biblical. God warns mankind since 1st Genesis of the consequences of sin of Adam and Eve’s sin. Therefore death is passed down through all the generations. At first, God punished with Noah’s flood then Sodom and Gomorrah destroying all flesh to replenish the earth. Yet mankind learnt nothing from those destructions like the people of Nineveh Feared God when Jonah preached to repent. So, God gives people multiple choices to repent and accept Jesus Christ in life to prepare in advance for eternal destination in heaven or hell. God Compassionate Loving God who Forgives in His Mercy and Grace. The Book of Lamentations in the Bible says God’s Mercies are new every morning. So when all is said and done, mankind will face God to give account of their lives not the contents or size of their bank balance. This means looking up to God as the Source to build up own personal life in Christ for eternal life. The Master Key to Life is Christ conquered death by God’s Resurrection Power to reunite the dead in Christ as a family. Believers must ensure they pray for family, friends, loved ones, colleagues through Jesus to receive Elohim’s Eternal Life to live in awareness in Christ.