All children are blessings from God to bring joy to the family to replenish the earth. The Bible describes all children as gift reward from God according to Psalm 127:3-5. So pray each day for each child throughout their lives and dedicate them to God. Speak blessings upon their lives through Jesus Christ as Christian believers. At the same time although the couple’s life may forever change throughout conception to birth, it is worth it as they enrich life. Children grow up very quickly so be well organised and prepared in advance before their arrival. Enjoy and accept as gifts from God as stewards entrusted with children.A woman’s career may also be often affected as hospital appointments, maternity leave and child care usually takes it toll on marriage relationship. Some women may be brought up to care for children with the support of other women. Family chores previously done by one may shared accordingly as required. Consult together in prayer with wisdom in Proverbs 13:10. Apply Bible advice in raising children for good effect on family as children draw best in parents to be less self-centred. The changes brought about by children are for a season even if it feels sharp and intense. Capacity to cope in career is applied as a new dimension of progression promotion from God. Children teach unconditional love, acceptance, forgiveness, mercy and compassion.
To bring more loving and understanding changes in a marriage. The child brings joy and also commitment responsibility of hard work. A child is for life so think carefully of indulging the hormones. Having children can seem as trophy to some but requires sacrifices, training and good upbringing with joy. With extended family not around as in previous years, the couple may be the sole carer of their child. It means centre of attention shifts from husband or bride to the infant. Some babies are quiet so easy to handle without bringing any major changes or long term stress on the couple. Simple sleeping patterns of the family may change to suit the child. Others may require extra attention and long-term care. Real maturity is needed to raise children to deny self.
Both parents may take turn during the night to feed the baby. Also it is important the husband must recognize pregnancy takes a toll on his wife physically and emotionally. A new baby can consume time and energy so affect intimacy remain emotionally. The couple can ensure a helpless, lovable baby is not a wedge to drives them apart but enrich the family. A new baby can consume a mother’s time to feel fulfilled because maternal instincts kicks in. This deep sense of emotional caring for baby overwhelms her. The husband may feel neglected by shift of focus from him to the baby so needs to change no matter how difficult it is to accept. From two people a sudden inclusion of the baby may cause upheaval. This transition is very hard to preconceive or fully understand before it happens. However, the husband rises to challenge child to be the loving father to the child if is it acceptable to do so in their community. Some women may be brought up to care for children with the support of other women. Family chores previously done by one couple may need to be shared accordingly as required. Consult together prayerfully with wisdom in Proverbs 13:10. Apply Bible advice in raising children for a good effect on the family.Having children may seem trophy to some but requires sacrifice, training and good upbringing. Flexibility depends on community if men are depended upon as the sole income earners. So go out to work while the women may remain home full-time. If codependent the woman who gives up career may risk loss of earning, own source of income, pensions and insurance. So it is necessary to prepare for the children’s future financially. If blessed to have a sound finance, the ensure children’s future education is saved for in bonds or stable safe secured investments. Also, teach children to Fear and Love God and fellow humans above all in their lives. To study hard in school but to know eternal life university is limitless and endless.
Therefore, the woman becomes worse of after bereavement or divorce. There needs to be moral ethical clarity on economic and financial preparation without assuming marriage automatically provides for future security. Many women and some men have their lives completely ruined for lack of advance preparation. The Bible says no man builds a tower without first considering the costs involved. Love alone is not enough as statistics show the highest cause of divorce is arguments of finance. All children are blessings from God to be raised with great opportunities. Be transparent about debts before marriage and so not create undue debts during dating, courtship and marriage.
Some traditional families expect marriage exclusively to meet needs of the man as the head of household. So women may run the family, see to matters of cooking, cleaning, childcare as a team. In-laws or extended family may live nearby to help the couple. On the other hand, the couple may pay child minder, nannies, house keepers to look after child. Rather than designer gear from head to toe equip child to have good foundation in childhood. Remember each stage of child growth is dynamic. Discipline methods in childhood may not always work in teenage years. Therefore, work with each child in the family to help child understand the choices and consequences of all actions. Children copy adults and enact their behaviour than what they told to do.
Children draw the best in parents to be less self-centred. To bring more loving and understanding changes in a marriage. The child brings joy and also commitment responsibility of hard work. Children are part of the couples future so teach them to respect authority to honour adults. What a person sows is what they will reap. Couples must be there for young children to bond with them for adult children to care about them as elderly parents. Get help from experienced parents if struggling and unsure. There are no perfect parents no matter how good enough one may be so let God take control of your household. Jesus is a great example in obedience of earthly family and God Almighty. A child is for life so think carefully before indulging hormones. Jesus loves children so call upon Jesus to help.
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