Valentine day is a wonderful moment to reflect on God’s Greatest LOVE Action in living history through Christ to save mankind. Remember God First in Christ, love yourself and loved ones in special ways to express deep affection as alright to express love to lavish them with great surprises. Send Valentine cards, enjoy romantic meals, celebrate with gifts to strengthen love with joy, jokes, laughter, companionship, trust, friendship and intimacy. Expressing affection with kisses, hugs, warm embraces, re-affirms commitment to each other if deemed appropriate. In addition, believers celebrate in Church with thanksgiving for God’s blessings to perfect their love. Above all, Christians Remember Jesus Christ the GREATEST LOVER OF ALL so Celebrate His Greater love. For no one loves more than Christ, to lay down their life for friends as Jesus did in John 15:13-14. Since God said in Genesis 2:8, ‘it is not good to be alone’ so one needs someone special to love, adore, marry and live with if one chooses to do so. Therefore some are still looking for that greatest perfect love to feel accepted, affirmed, appreciated, confident, endorsed, fulfilled, happy, loved, a true friend, loyal, faithful, dependable, reliable, trustworthy, instant in season, so the list goes on. It is God who decided people marry so a great blessing to find one to receive marital favour from God.bridegroom jesus and church
Share Biblical romantic stories, tales and drama and observing others in love tend to fire and feed the imagination to desire a similar kind of love of life. So Christian dating agencies all over world, including others like the millionaires billionaires matchmakers clubs cater for a specific clientele. Some treat love matters as none of God’s business so attention shifts from Godly family approach used by God to create Eve for Adam as his wife. One does not literary have to copy God’s exact method used, but seek His face not to be unequally yoked but Abraham found a Godly wife Rebecca for Isaac his son to become his wife. Some modern methods encourage seeking ones own partner by oneself to suit one’s standards, as long as person is approved by friends, and family or not. Standard requirements are a tall order sometimes seems impossible to attain in a single individual. For example, the list goes sometimes like this: must be tall, 6 feet +, handsome, with sense of humour, must make me laugh, be healthy and fit, working, earning, wealthy, fabulously rich, kind, prepared to travel, great in bed, tender loving care, the type of Hollywood superstar model admired etc.niculina i love you.gif
One may have a pin-up of one’s prince charming as a secret admirer, hope and pray one day those dreams come true. Often, the image created from the list becomes the object of affection and love itself so is replayed over and over again. The seeker then goes on the hunt like the women from Iceland in search of that perfect love in the right places depending on who one is looking for. Soon one starts watching and looking until the one that perfectly fits ones description is located. One starts ticking the boxes on the list with eye contact, body language, looks, smile, voice, mannerisms, height, etc until one decides this will do. Pretty soon there is introduction, offer of a drink and presto the one is found. A person reciprocates so with intense conversation the choice is made and goes on several dates to get to know each other better. A few had gut feelings so knew it was love at first sight, proposed and got engaged. Others warmed up to each other and developed love into a more passionate and deeper relationship that lasted a lifetime. Those not so blessed found it impossible to find any one up to their standard so keep searching forever.roses-and-chocolate-1366x768
The interesting thing is that God’s definition of true love found in 1 Corinthians 13 God’s Love Manual often seems nothing like the made-up list one is looking for. God is hardly consulted in the decision-making process and one feels relationships, marriage and sex are not really worth discussing with a God who is too Holy to be interested in human affairs. So this is one of reasons and a major root cause of contradictions in love life for what one wants seems different from what God set up in His Love Manual. Genuine true love is often greater love of handwork, selflessness, looking out for interest of others plus loving one’s self not to become totally lost in the process, commitment, responsibility, sacrifice, forsaking all other’s to have and to hold. God’s standard of true love almost seems impossible to some to achieve. However, God designed it this way for a reason to protect the person in search of love from hurting themselves and others involved. Writing check – list of what one wants or desires from the outward looks only does not mean a person satisfies your inner – longing for peace, joy, good success. It is God’s Strength in you through Christ Jesus that helps you to love faithfully.jesus_is_my_valentine
Lists written purely based on emotional physical sexual desires, looks or physical appearance for intimacy, probably from fantasy read from Mills and Booms by Barbara Cartland is not deep enough to sustain serious business commitment of love. Only in story books couples always lived happily ever after, in a perpetual honeymoon period, without conflict, any disagreements or conflicts. So their love never fizzles out or requires any regular input to develop and grow stronger so just seems to happen easily. Actors and actresses do a good job in depicting serial lust, portrayed in glorifying romantic love so people desperately want to have such love life. Valentine day celebrates kindness of a girl to a priest, without fully understanding what it cost to really love as God intends. The question is does one truly measure up to God’s real love manual, is looking inside to take someone on to be their helpmeet need, is willing to give that love? Some are looking for someone to fill their love tank, but can they do exactly the same for others if one wants others to do as they wants them to do? Doed one truly honestly reflect deeply in prayer first instead of letting carnal fleshly feelings lure to be engrossed and overwhelmed with momentary feeling of intimacy that blinds love. Genuine true love comes only from God no matter how much yiur loved one and family loves you. love-clipart-Kije9LykT.png
God Says be mine because God’s Love in Christ Strengthens you to love yourself first to give and receive human love. To have confidence in GOD’S LOVE enables you to be joyful and happy in yourself. It is not other humans only that gives true love. Such an approach lasts for a season so grow into mature love to look out for each other not to demand to remain the centre of attention forever. Especially after marriage, it no longer about just the two people involved but includes children, bigger family, friends, colleagues and those met on wedding aisle on the way to altar. Therefore the list being made for the process of choosing a partner must include looking beyond romantic films and drama, to real life experiences so trusted friends, therapists, others can support one to attain good success. If one is willing to obey and eat good fruits of marriage, it is not just physical intimacy that makes a marriage, but attention and devotion to little things that matter most to each other with God at centre of relationship. Older couples give wisdom to younger ones so marriage is not exclusive licence to take off reject others in family as lasts for a season. Rebecca was brought by Abraham into family for support not to leave an elderly on his own. Leaving and cleaving does not cut off family for lovers to become too close for comfort. It causes resentment as pressure mounts to be all things to each other in exclusive isolated relationship. be-mine-women-s-t-shirt.jpg
God’s method for love, married couples includes making provisions for the future, in old age by setting good example in treating those around them well with respect, honour, and humility for the same measure they will in turn receive. Love must be allowed to be taught in a real, practical, meaningful way, as God intended to be so, people will be prepared to face reality of change challenging transition to adjust in relating in new ways. Integrate and accommodate each other as a family. Reality is completely different from one’s own preconceived ideas that it is good to humble oneself with a teachable spirit to learn to love each other with a greater Love like Christ Jesus Loves His Bride, the Church and gave His life for? Christian marriage is built on Jesus’ Model of Greater Love for His Bride. Before choosing a spouse believers must write a suitable checklist not based on physical outward appearance for intimacy, pleasing to the eyes for lust but agree with God’s love principle in 1 Corinthians 13 and Ephesians 5:22-33. With God all things are possible to the Glory of God for Godly marriages in Jesus Name enjoying the blessings and favour of God.


5 thoughts on “GOD’S GREAT LOVE FOR YOU

  1. Thinking about the impact of our lives is so very important. Leaving a legacy of a godly life is also something that few seem to think of …at least when we talk with those who commit adultery and think there shouldn’t be any impact upon others , including their spouses and children!

    I appreciate this article . I see that my husband is STILL most concerned about himself after 33 years …and is still in the ‘drivers seat’ in choosing what HE wants even as he knows the damage he does to his family and me. It is always all about him and everyone just has to suck it up .

    In the years before D DAY I spent the life I had with him in gratitude for any time he would be at home thinking he really had wanted more time with us but could not do so.

    I know some people would not think this possible for so long but I was raised in a family where my father’s work came first because we were taught that he had to do so to ‘feed’ the family …however even his ongoing absence to play golf was somehow regarded as a necessity for his work and our financial needs and his health. Everyone lived for my dad’s benefit. So doing so in my own marriage seemed the best way to serve the Lord …this perspective was pretty much taught in the ministry I was in .

    It turns out it did not serve GOD well and did not call for my husband to rise up to fulfill his jurisdiction as husband and father.

    Early on he was confronted with the idea that he should study the Word to allow GOD to instruct him in how to live in marriage for his own benefit and ours .He told me then that he did not want to be the head or leader of our home! This after we married even though before marriage we discussed this and he was even in seminars where much of the responsibilities of husbands was taught.

    It seems once in the worldly venue of corporate finance he ‘forgot’ the Lord and distanced from me and our family . He off loaded his responsibilities upon me and others.

    His desire to be ‘free’ yet take all that was available from all of us whenever it was convienient for him and he had nothing else to do has been right where he is today …so he did not grow or mature since he was a college grad…but has remained a taker.

    No believers generosity or love has had any real impact upon him …he simply enjoyed the warmth and took it all giving little or nothing back …living a duplicitous life and now demanding he gets to live separate for his life long dream of ‘freedom’

    I pray the Lord brings about misery in that state of apostasy ..lest his soul be lost.

    In the mean time I am continuing to seek growth in my own walk and pray for his soul.

    • Dear Lovey,
      As much as you are disappointed by the conduct of your spouse, as a true and genuine believer you can release him to God to touch his heart for the heart of every man is in God’s hands. Do not curse him as much as you feel he deserves it. Let God be your strength to guide and direct your life and do not walk in bitterness and unforgiveness because vengeance belongs to God.

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    • Thanks for the wonderful blog and work you have done to help support others. A recent poll suggested Christians have the highest divorce rate. It is not surprising that is so because a lot of ideas and fantasies are based on worldly concepts and values. So at times it is after marriage the couple in church as believers learn the Godly foundation for marriage. Or both may be unsaved before marriage so Biblical counselling helps them change. On the other hand they may be born again, sanctified and fully committed Christians. Most people do not set out to have an affair. Circumstances addressed appropriately and honestly through heart to heart communication or love therapy can help resolve some issues. Others need the strength of God to change with sensitivity, forgiveness, passion to recommit and redress underlying problems.

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